I'm writing this about someone that isn’t around anymore, and that’s a bit sad actually because it’s a lovely story about a person who changed my life in the best way.
I sort of hope one day they’ll fall across this post and recognise themselves in it and feel good about that. And even if they d...
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So you're a virgin?
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I’ve been a sex worker for a long time, and in that time I’ve seen probably hundreds of clients who would call themselves virgins. No inexperienced person presents the same, in fact a lot of people have told me that they were novices A...
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'Do you love your job?'
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We lie there in the afterglow of the fuckfest that just ensued, and we start to talk about other things.
It’s often my favourite part of a booking, our guards are down and the conversation usually evolves past the niceties and the ‘what are you doing...
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Love
Originally published on my own blog - see my website for more.
Justine and Jake* book me for a few hours. It's their anniversary they tell me, they can't wait to meet me. They promptly pay a deposit and send me little kiss emojis. A little flutter happens in my tummy.
They sound like great c...
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Beem It - the future of deposits
I'm motivated to write this diary because I want every client, as they're sitting here browsing, to download the BeemIt app. BeemIt is an instant payment method so deposits are transferred from your account to mine, anonymously. No fluffing around waiting for it to clear, guessing how long it might...
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'The Moments Before'
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My next client just txt to say he is here.
He couldn’t have timed it worse - he’s 10 minutes early and I thought I had just a few more minutes to breathe through my sobs and dry the tears falling down my face. My l...
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On their knees
Originally published on my own website.
Hassan* wasn’t exactly well regarded at our brothel. He haggled, was pretty rude, sometimes even smelly, so when he phoned in asking for our cheapest services with whoever was on, everyone in the lady’s lounge said a big firm ‘NOPE!’ and was passed on to...
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Deposits
Blogs on deposits are nothing new. It’s a big topic we discuss, and a topic I often float around because I haven’t always felt compelled to take them.
But I’m overdue to talk about it, because of some attitudes I have faced recently regarding them. As I am about to embark on the touring circuit...
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Dear John
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Dear John
You hadn’t seen your kids in three weeks, and you missed their last phone call. It isn’t that you didn’t want to see them, you did, you always do. You made an effort to be home when she said they’d call, but she changed the time w...
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Champagne Casanova
I knew you were trouble by the look on your face when you popped the bottle open, the sideways grin and the way you look up without moving your head.
Last week I had a scheduled ‘sex appointment’ with my regular fuck buddy but he’s become unreliable lately. Funny how people pay us yet our free d...
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Seeing Red
*copied from my personal blog on my website, see profile for link*
Recently, there has been a campaign by the Red Cross Blood Service appealing for blood - you may have seen or heard about it. They are, as usual, in desperate need for more blood and donors. As someone who received multiple transf...
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A Collection of Hoems
Periodically, I publish silly little poems (affectionally known as hoe-ms) on Social Media. It lightens the mood, but also it's just a little bit of fun for me and the community. Here is a small sample for you to enjoy - for others, be sure to follow me on Twitter - @TheAshaFox.
Language sensitiv...
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What happened to Erotic Relaxation?
Some time ago, I introduced an Erotic Relaxation service into my list of services. I did this for a few reasons. I am genuinely interested in the human body and also men’s health. I also wanted to try something new, learn some new skills and understand a side of the industry that I hadn’t worked in...
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Unicorns
You and I both know Tinder isn’t the fail-safe way to get laid that you hoped it would be. You can spend hours swiping through all the stunning ladies in your area but often you’re either too scared to swipe right on the ones you fancy, or they’re not your type, or they’re a bit weird, a bit high ma...
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Keeping it real
When I came into the sex industry properly at 21/22, I was a svelte 6ft greyhound of a girl. My cheekbones protruded, my hair was long and shiny, and with a warped pre-existing idea of the job I was walking into, I accentuated the plum in my mouth (which I was brought up with but actively suppress)...
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Carrots
I love this work. There isn’t a doubt in my mind that I’m where I’m meant to be and I have every intention of being a sexworker for a long time to come. I have been a sexworker for exactly 8 years this Sunday. Eight years of incredible experiences in many different cities, some experiences I’ll reme...
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Merry Kissmas!
I will be away this Christmas, visiting family and touching base with myself for 2 weeks, from the 20th of December until the 5th of January.
I'd like to take a moment to say a really big thank you to all my lovely clients from Scarlet Blue, and also Scarlet Blue as well. 2017 has been a really c...
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A story of love and betrayal
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A story of love and betrayal.
I wasn’t aware of you. I knew you were there but you were down there, a long way from up here. You were foreign and served only to relieve me when I was cross legged and overfull. Yo...
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'What ELSE do you do?'
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Now, I'm well aware it's commonplace for sexworkers to attend uni and/or have other jobs. That used to be me. But the day I had the freedom to go 'full time' in sexwork was a glorious day. Because I always gave a lot to this, it's...
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A refocus on touring
I've written before about touring, and here I am writing about it again.
You see, touring is something I have done alot before. There was a time in New Zealand where I lived on the road, and touring was my life. I enjoyed it. But I also missed the sensation of home, and I'm terrible at living out...
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A Word of Reassurance
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You’ve been watching her from afar. You’ve seen her soft, supple skin. You’ve watched her laugh and interact and she’s a natural at it, or so it appears. It’s alluring to you, but intimidating. You’ve never been with a girl like that. There hav...
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On a less than ideal Saturday
It was a really quiet start to the week. You can fiddle with your adverts - jiggle some pictures and rewrite the odd thing, but mostly those zero days just happen because they happen and there’s stuff all you can do about it. I’m a master of making time disappear, and so it’s not the worst thing. Yo...
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Value for Money
I remember that Billy Joel’s ‘Always a Woman’ had come onto my playlist.
We were lying there, unable to speak, I could hear the gaps in your sighs as you tried to think of something to say, but there was nothing. I'm okay with that, I think there’s a beauty in silence - post coital clouds of empt...
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'When are you coming to my town?'
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I need to have a gripe about touring.
Touring sex workers are now a well established part of the sex industry. To the point where, it’s now become expected.
Now, touring has it’s upsides. I’m a bit of a tourist - I like to see new places...
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It's just your anxiety talking...
**excerpt from post on my own blog found on my website**
I was really anxious this time.
Sometimes the nerves are not so bad, sometimes they’re not present at all, and at times - like today, I can’t hold my glass steady and I get the arrhythmia that I sometimes get with my heart murmur. I f...
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Using 'down time' positively
The sex industry is one that ebbs and flows. While it can be a lucrative career endeavour, it can come with some slow patches and weeks where outgoings can outstretch incomings. It can certainly, when a heavy social media user, be a little rough on the self esteem, though thankfully I am fortunate e...
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The Txt Rationale
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Asides from already having an existing bit of phone anxiety due to a poor decision to take a telemarketing job when I was 18 (now that is what I call degrading work!) I learnt very quickly that accepting phone calls as a...
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Going Steady
**excerpt from my personal blog. For full post, please see my own website**
We throw around words like connection and intimacy alot, and lord knows that can be achieved, but it’s all in the realms of the bedroom and in the paid time spent together. An escort is a master of compartmentalisation....
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Michael and Me
"I hadn’t been working independently very long. I hadn’t long made the transition from brothel to private, and I was still getting into the groove of everything. I’d chopped my hair into a Victoria Beckham bob, I was in a fluoro knickers phase and I was for the first time working from a lovely, brig...
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Ghost
I was stoked when you text me. I could really see that you had considered how a lady would like to be approached.
You were articulate, you introduced yourself and knew what you wanted. You told me everything I needed to know, without too much over-familiarity or fluff. You seemed genuine, funny ev...
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In Search of Connection
Here I share with you a short excerpt from my recent blog, 'Can't Get Any', which can be found on my website.
"I ...do not think that any motivation to see sex workers is more moral than another. I do not categorise nor care, only that what is done is done with dignity and respect - and it is. I...
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A Proud Moment
It’s timely, this blog really, and continues on from my last blog about social justice warriors. It’s really easy to become overexposed, overloaded and weighed down by perceived negatives in the sex industry. As if it isn’t enough that society struggles to accept the existence of our industry and to...
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Refilling the tank
I was having some thoughts today (I know, it’s hard to believe but it happens occasionally lol) while I was listening to a bit of my favourite little ginge Ed Sheeran on the treadmill today. You see, for the first time in several months, I’d finally mustered the courage/motivation to haul my phat as...
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Becoming Asha
There's always a lot of chatter about the circumstances where people find themselves in sex work. A lot of people are curious, some out of concern, some mostly I suspect just looking to hear what they want to hear. Putting aside my distaste for nosy-parkers, you can't deny the curiosity from societ...
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