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Thomas and I first met in October 2025.
I found Thomas for very personal reasons. I knew exactly why I was there and what I wanted from the experience. I wanted intimacy to be something I chose, completely on my terms. Trust was a huge part of that.
I wasn’t nervous about meeting him. I had chosen to be there.
From the beginning, I felt comfortable with Thomas. Nothing was assumed and there was never any pressure. Consent never felt like something we had to formally discuss. It was simply there in the way he was with me.
What I didn’t expect when I first booked Thomas was everything else that came with knowing him.
Over the following year, we had fabulous dinners, spent hours talking, laughed a lot and got to know each other properly.
Thomas is a beautiful man, and there is so much more to him than his appearance. He’s affectionate, funny and wonderfully himself. We could be having a serious conversation one minute and talking about something completely ridiculous the next. We shared a rather unusual sense of humour, and I loved that about us.
There aren’t many people who get the completely unfiltered version of me. Thomas did. I never felt I needed to be anyone other than myself around him, and I appreciated that more than he probably realised.
There were times when I wanted intimacy and times when I simply wanted his company. I valued both.
I also learnt something about myself during that year. For someone who can be incredibly direct, sometimes more than people bargain for, I’m not always very good at expressing how I feel when something really matters.
Thomas never pushed me to explain myself before I was ready. Over time, I became more comfortable saying what I wanted, what I didn’t want and sometimes that I simply didn’t know.
Our time together has now come to an end.
There are things I wish had been different and conversations I wish I’d known how to have. I’ve reflected on those things, and I’m still learning how to find the words when something really matters to me.
But none of that changes how I feel about Thomas.
Being a woman right now, trust isn’t something I take for granted. Thomas will always be the only man I have trusted in this way. That was true when I first met him, and it remains true today.
I still have enormous affection and respect for him. He was part of a very personal chapter of my life, and I’m grateful for the experiences we shared.
I chose Thomas for very personal reasons, and knowing everything I know now, I would choose him again.
I found Thomas for very personal reasons. I knew exactly why I was there and what I wanted from the experience. I wanted intimacy to be something I chose, completely on my terms. Trust was a huge part of that.
I wasn’t nervous about meeting him. I had chosen to be there.
From the beginning, I felt comfortable with Thomas. Nothing was assumed and there was never any pressure. Consent never felt like something we had to formally discuss. It was simply there in the way he was with me.
What I didn’t expect when I first booked Thomas was everything else that came with knowing him.
Over the following year, we had fabulous dinners, spent hours talking, laughed a lot and got to know each other properly.
Thomas is a beautiful man, and there is so much more to him than his appearance. He’s affectionate, funny and wonderfully himself. We could be having a serious conversation one minute and talking about something completely ridiculous the next. We shared a rather unusual sense of humour, and I loved that about us.
There aren’t many people who get the completely unfiltered version of me. Thomas did. I never felt I needed to be anyone other than myself around him, and I appreciated that more than he probably realised.
There were times when I wanted intimacy and times when I simply wanted his company. I valued both.
I also learnt something about myself during that year. For someone who can be incredibly direct, sometimes more than people bargain for, I’m not always very good at expressing how I feel when something really matters.
Thomas never pushed me to explain myself before I was ready. Over time, I became more comfortable saying what I wanted, what I didn’t want and sometimes that I simply didn’t know.
Our time together has now come to an end.
There are things I wish had been different and conversations I wish I’d known how to have. I’ve reflected on those things, and I’m still learning how to find the words when something really matters to me.
But none of that changes how I feel about Thomas.
Being a woman right now, trust isn’t something I take for granted. Thomas will always be the only man I have trusted in this way. That was true when I first met him, and it remains true today.
I still have enormous affection and respect for him. He was part of a very personal chapter of my life, and I’m grateful for the experiences we shared.
I chose Thomas for very personal reasons, and knowing everything I know now, I would choose him again.
