Why do men pay for sex?
Since working, i've developed a lot of new pet peeves. The biggest is when I hear people judge clients, which is plastered all over their face anytime someone asks, "what kind of guy pays for sex?"
This question is almost always asked by friends of mine who aren't in the industry. I hate when people straight away jump to the conclusion that it's to cheat or that they have some kind of dangerous ulterior motive. There are actually MANY reasons why people pay for sex, and are often less malicious than you may think.
Everyone is different. The judgement of people who pay for sex is part of the problem as to why this industry is still so taboo. It's 2022 people, there are so many things to be stressed about, but sex should not be one of them! If this post changes the perspectives of at least one person, then i'll consider this a job well done.
So, why do men pay for sex?
I have a very inquisitive mind, and in my bookings I like to really get to know my clients. Peoples reasonings for seeing me always interests me. Sometimes clients will reveal their purpose of the booking to me, other times I may ask politely if the vibe is right.
So now let me take you through some of the most common answers i get from men.
Time
I think we often forget how much work is involved with trying to sleep someone out in the wild. You either have to spend an abundance of time on apps or in bars. If you're horny right now and you have a busy schedule, you might not have the luxury of time at your disposal to wine and dine different girls or spend time flicking through the hundreds of girls on the dating apps. Even if you do, there isn't always the guarantee of getting lucky.
A lot of my clients are businessmen or have busy schedules. They often don't have time to meet girls because they're always working or travelling. Especially if you may only be in town for one or two nights on business. Many clients like the ability of locking in an hour at a set time on a set day, which allows them to plan their schedules more efficiently.
If you meet a girl out in the wild, how likely is it that you can just message her and say "hey. I'm only free this week on Thursday between 1-2, and all I want to do during that time is have sex. Other than that I won't have time to see you or do any other activities such as talk, eat or what not. Hope this is fine". Like seriously people, if I got this message from a guy I was seeing, i'd be thinking like ummmm sorry, what!? I probably wouldn't even reply. Let's take a moment here to pause and reflect on how that conversation would go down if you received such a message. Conversely, if I got this message from a client my reply would be very different: "Sure lovely. Let's confirm a few more details".
Effort
If you've been on a big bender, the last thing you probably want to do is go out or strike up a conversation with a girl on tinder. Especially if you can't see your phone straight...
Money
In terms of money, from what i've been told by clients is that it actually costs a significant amount of money to pick up girls out in the wild. When you factor in transport to and from venues, buying girls drinks, and then ultimately wining and dining, it adds up. Let's not forget the other additional expenses to this, such as outfits and dinners. Especially if you're doing this frequently.
Clients will often tell me it ends up being cheaper to pay for guaranteed sex from an escort every now and then, when compared to participating in all the above on a more frequent basis. A lot of you may disagree with this assertion, but don't shoot the messenger! This is just a common thing I'm told.
Emotional attachment
By now you're surely thinking - it's so easy to get laid out in the wild! For some people this is true. I've had plenty of clients who are absolute 10s and sometimes I can't help myself but say, "you're a pretty good looking bloke. Surely you'd have no issues picking up girls out in the wild?". Their reply almost always goes something like, "yeah that's true, but I don't want to lead someone on".
We often forget the emotional connection that comes sex. If you meet a girl out in a bar or on tinder, and all you want to do is just get laid, maybe that isn't how the girl feels. Maybe she's looking for something deeper. I, myself, have been the victim to sleeping with someone I genuinely liked (in an unpaid way), and then never heard from them again. I don't need to describe how much that sucks, because i'm sure most of you reading have experienced something similar.
If these men recognise the hurt this would cause, and are trying to prevent that by paying for sex instead of breaking girls hearts, why the hell are we judging them!? Men like this should be praised, not judged! It melts my heart when I hear clients speak like this.
As I said in my last post, and as I'll say in many future posts: clients are, most of time, genuinely sweet and kind hearted people.
You're probably thinking that guys don't need to just ghost these girls, which is true. I know that there are always fuck buddies, but as I said, we often forget the emotional connection of sex. Even with fuck buddies, a lot of the time you do more than just have sex, and your encounter may not always just be for an hour. I've had fuck buddies before, and they're hardly ever just a quickie. Some people just aren't interested in dating, or even messaging. There isn't anything wrong with that.
Fetishes
What I find the most haunting from some of my more adventurous clients is not their fetishes, but their lack of being able to be open about them.
Some guys like things that are less common, that most girls out in the wild won't do. Heck, even some escorts won't do! Therefore, you don't need me to tell you how much easier it is for these men to be able to pay someone who they know will perform the service, and who they know won't judge them in the slightest.
I hope I live to see a day where sex and fetishes are no longer taboo...
Lastly, the one thing no one likes to think about.
By now you're probably all wondering when I'm going to mention the clients who see me as an act of unfaithfulness. I won't comment much about this, but I will say a couple of things. Firstly, it's far less common than you think. Secondly, if you want my person opinion, emotional cheating is the real killer. Paid sex is purely physical.
Judgment is a colour that doesn't look good on anyone; Plus, it's so last season - or should I say, last century?
Until next time.
xoxo
KC
https://sexandsydney.com/
