When Session-Hopping Can Become A Disservice
You’ve been exploring for a while now, checking off everything on your list, seeking the thrill of new experiences, but there’s still a feeling that something’s missing. You don’t quite understand why. You’ve done everything “right,” sought out experiences, accomplished what you wanted, even pushed your limits-so why do you feel this way?
It may have become a frenzy, constantly trying to fill a void you can’t quite describe, seeking a thrill that’s just out of reach. But isn’t kink supposed to feel empowering? Where is the sense of purpose, of pride? Why do you feel so… powerless instead?
Perhaps it’s because you’ve been seeing a new mistress almost every session, rarely going back again, and only staying an hour at most. You’ve scrolled through directories, hoping someone’s photo will spark something. You’ve sought the shallow thrill of a temporary role, and this is the result.
Meaningful BDSM is based on trust, mutual understanding, shared journeys, pushing boundaries and ascending the envelope that is the human experience together-it’s about building a bond, even a friendship. Can you truly form a meaningful connection, deep enough to trust someone with your physical and psychological safety, maybe even your life, within an hour, including shower time? Probably not
But think of people you’ve known for a while, people who know you well, whom you trust deeply. They could read you across a room. So why expect something as intricate as kink to be any different?
The bonds and friendships I’ve built throughout my kink journey are what have made me the Dominant I am today. I didn’t get here alone; I didn’t achieve this by beating and domming myself. I got here through meaningful dynamics with people that go far beyond mere transactions
In the words of my cherished slave, Slave N: “It was definitely more fulfilling developing that friendship and not just being a cold transaction for money. It’s nice knowing l’ve grown too, along with my mistress during this time”
You get out of BDSM and its dynamics what you put into it. Maybe, just maybe, you’re doing yourself a disservice by session-hopping. I encourage you to take time to find someone who attracts you not just physically, but who draws you in, not their photos but their words, someone who pulls out your submission from within you, even through a phone screen. Invest in them, and invest in yourself. Build an ongoing dynamic. Build a bond.
~GD
