It's Your First Time and Your Nervous?
I hear this often, "it's my first time seeing a escort, I'm super nervous and don't know what to do or what to say"
Sometimes when I hear this I know it isn't true and i know this almost instantly, but more often than that it is true and some men are downright petrified on what to do. Some are worried about the legalities and unsure what really will be going on... not too mention the deposit.... Many fear scams or women running off with their $200 deposit never to be seen again.
I find this fear a little bizarre but that because I'm aware of how much marketing effort, branding and set up goes into being a independent escort and I know for myself and pretty much every lady you would find on a reputable site like Scarlet Blue dreads the thought of re-branding. These profiles take forever to set up, the photoshoot's are usually time consuming and expensive, then personal websites, logos, blogs, announcements and Social media.... All ruined for your deposit? Regulars and all lost over your deposit? I don't think anyone would be crazy enough.
That being said it is up to you too look into things... Is she on a reputable site? Does she have Social media, a website, reviews, interactions and a decent profile? If so I highly doubt you would have any issue with deposit. So you have gone you have had a read, checked out her social media etc. Now how do you contact? Is this legal may also be running through your mind...
Now in Australia, for some obscene reason we have different laws in every state.. Google your state and I think you should find your answer- but it is Legal to see a escort in all states but where and how will differ in each state. I'm in Queensland- my laws are safe services only, incall and outcall are lawful with the exception private workers are to work alone- ie no PA, receptionist, agency, no other worker on premises while working unless it was a licensed Adult venue licensed for providing sexual services and entertainment (ie, a brothel/ bordello) this of-course is not in fact a private scenario but a option for some ladies who advertise and work across both venues. We are however allowed a driver/ security guard who is a security licence holder. Workers do not need a SWA licence in QLD... Super confusing right? That's QLD...
Find a reputable lady and there is a high chance she will keep you safe and within the laws. But that all being said in QLD there is a massive bit of information you need to understand, she is doing it all her self in most circumstances. How many ridiculous messages like"hi" do you think she gets a day? ALOT! Do not be one of these guys, it is super frustrating. When you contact a lady don't waste her time usually in her contact section it will contain how to contact and the method you should use but most will require certain information so go back and read.
1. her location or open the touring tab and check touring dates
2. In or outcall- also reading the touring information next to the dates.
3. Her rates and the details below that *this may include preferred minimum etc for new clients*
4. Availability- some providers have a 9-5 or other commitments some have hours for short notice but are flexible for pre-bookings outside of those hours.
5. re- read the rates and realize never ever should you try to barter them- most will black list you for doing so. If you cannot afford her time save up, or find a provider in your budget.
Now you have all the information you should contact via preferred method.
for example
"Hi my name is Josh (insert your real first name liars send off alarms) I am wishing to make a booking with you tomorrow evenning for a INCALL in Brisbane. I would like to spend a Hour and a Half with you preferably after 7pm but before 11pm. I am flexible with day's if need be. I have set up a Beem it account for deposit and have read all your information. Looking forward to seeing you. Josh x"
Super easy guys- the point of this is you need to provide all relevant information in your initial SMS- I cannot stand one worded or non detailed messages- its a waste of time and usually 90% of guys who send these messages are just that, a waste of time as they have not read Anything... Another tip, do not unless the 'available now' sticker is on her profile as for a booking 'now' its super rude... maybe ask for a booking at her nearest availability. Men do not like it when we message blunt and sound rude/ arrogant, so i think mutual respect of such is in order.
Now so booking time- I know myself I am nervous meeting new people for the first time too so don't be scared. If it is a incall follow all instructions given, if via text read it thoroughly it will probably provide a good area for parking, and which entrance to use to the building also a when to call or let her know of your arrival. when you have arrived stop in your car and read the instructions again- discretion is super important so never ever approach reception- the person your seeking technically does not exist- that name is usually 98% of the time a fake name for her privacy- we wont stalk you guys unless you pay us too... sorry.
When she opens the door great with a smile, and make sure your quiet and discreet in the hall, enter and give her donation- upfront but don't be alarmed if she checks this in front of you (I do, a client was given a fake note at a store a few weeks ago and I would have wound up with a fake $50 if I didn't check)
Let her lead- If she asks you to take a shower which most will take the shower and use the Soap provided- wash everything especially your face, bottom and front- if you have foreskin pull that down and wash there too- sad i have to write this but it needs to be said again.. use soap there and wash your butt properly, wash under your arms properly and your feet. The cleaner you are the better your service. Don't put your underwear back on, wrap a towel around you or streak lol.
"can you join me?" I get asked this alot- this is not kinky time this is a you get clean time, I finish preparation for the booking get the room setup etc. After the shower and your clean maybe then a shower for two would be a option- most ladies are showered and prepared before you arrive-, outcall's offer the lady a shower if she has traveled far especially, I know if I have traveled I like to freshen Its nicer for me and for you.
Sometimes the best icebreaker can be stating your nervous, it helps. One thing I find men do when its their first time is they infact become clock watchers- "how much longer do I have?" etc. Don't you worry about these things its our job to keep the time in our mind - always have a little extra cash in case your wanting to extend or upgrade as well . Some men do have troubles on their first time- some ejaculate very quickly, some have a nervous willy who keeps getting excited then scared, others have a hard time getting into the mind set. It can be a very different experience for men paying for services sometimes, it can take time to adjust.
This brings me back to a preferred minimum- its generally not because she wants to make certain amount of money from you but because we are aware and have calculated a range of time that men tend to feel more comfortable and enjoy themselves more. I have estimated this to be 1.5- 2 hours for first time encounters- this way we can communicate more like 'humans' and go into a bedroom scenario with more of a date feel- a date with a shower and penis check in the begining ;) lol. but you get my drift we can talk, you can understand I am doing this of my own free will and get rid of the crazy scenarios and emotions in your head that so many struggle with on their first booking.
Enjoy the booking and let her lead you into a world that can feel pretty amazing.
When your time is up, either extend and be upfront about it ask if there is a possibility to extend and ask the amount- again don't try to negotiate this, if you cannot afford just be honest and thank anyway. Leave the apartment, do not linger and be discreet when leaving. Had a good time? Leave her a review and give a sms too let her know you enjoyed your time together.
Sorry about the shower scene :S but in honesty many men do not realize how important this part is and how much of the process they are skipping over. clean bodies are nice bodies. REMEMBER first impressions count- don't be like the timewasters- be like Josh I can almost guarantee Josh had a good time.
Thanks for reading- and thanks for the messages in regards to my blogs- I never realized how many of them are read until recently.. :D
See you all again on Friday I'm going to be talking a little bit about the female body- lately another topic I think could be beneficial- ALSO if you are a man who does not really know what he's doing in regards to female pleasure or even during sex its self I do coach- I don't advertise it all over my page but I have coached quite a few gentlemen and would be happy to do this during our bookings- Just let me know not every man wants to be told how to do things Properly.
Hugs and Kisses
Armarni Bulkani
xoxoxo
