escort diary® of Sixta: Choosing Firmness over Fear
Today I reminded myself why being firm is not optional in this line of work—it is essential. Boundaries are not walls meant to keep people out; they are structures that keep me safe, grounded, and able to show up as my best self. I am warm, attentive, and genuine, but that does not mean I am flexible when it comes to my rules. My terms exist for a reason, and I will not dilute them to accommodate confusion, pressure, or entitlement.
There was a time when I felt the need to over-explain. I thought clarity meant repeating myself or softening my words so others wouldn’t feel uncomfortable. What I’ve learned is that the right people don’t need convincing. Respect shows itself naturally, and professionalism is mutual. When someone challenges my boundaries, delays payment, ignores conditions, or pushes for exceptions, that tells me everything I need to know.
Being firm protects my time, my energy, and my safety. It allows me to work with confidence instead of anxiety. It filters out those who do not value consent, structure, or respect. I am not here to negotiate my worth or prove that I deserve basic decency. Access to me is intentional, and I choose who receives it.
I no longer feel guilty for saying no. I no longer second-guess my instincts. If something feels off, I pause. If something crosses a line, I decline.
Peace of mind will always matter more than a booking. In choosing firmness, I choose longevity, self-respect, and empowerment. This work requires strength, and today I stood firmly in mine.
