diary of male escort Tyler Banks

I’ve experienced this myself—with clients.
Women who, in the moment, found it hard to ask me for what they really wanted.
Whether it was more kissing…
Being held in a certain way…
Or something deeper and more intimate.
They weren’t sure how to ask.
They didn’t know if they were allowed to.

And afterward, when they felt safe to share, they told me:
“I didn’t know how to say it.”
“I didn’t want to ruin the moment.”
“I was scared I’d be too much.”

We talked about it.
We worked through it together.
And from there, they found their voice.
Sometimes, they just needed permission.

And maybe you do too.

Because this is more common than you think.
So many women have been conditioned to stay quiet.
To accept what’s given instead of asking for what they truly want.
To not risk feeling like a burden.

But your body knows what she needs.
She’s always known.
And when you listen, she will guide you.

Here’s the truth:
No man—whether he’s your partner or an escort—can give you what you need if you don’t let him in.
If you don’t speak your truth.
Intimacy starts with that.

So I’m giving you permission.
To take up space.
To have needs.
To say, “I want…”
To say, “More, please.”

And here’s how you can start finding your voice:

1. Tune Inward First
Close your eyes. Breathe.
Ask yourself: What do I need right now?
Trust whatever comes up.

2. Speak From Sensation
Try this:
“I’d love it if you kissed me slower.”
“It would feel amazing to be held tighter.”
This isn’t demanding. It’s inviting.

3. Start Small
You don’t need to have all the words right away.
Start with one simple truth.
“Can you hold me like this?”
Small steps build safety, and safety deepens intimacy.

4. You Are Not Too Much
Your needs aren’t a burden.
The right man wants to know.
He wants to meet you there—but he needs you to show him how.

I’ve watched women find their voice this way.
And everything changes when they do.
The intimacy they were craving? It was always there, waiting for them to claim it.

You are allowed to want more.
And you are allowed to ask for it.

With love,
Tyler

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