A deeper dive into Tantra and conscious sexuality
In recent weeks, I've lent into a deep immersion of the practice of Conscious Sexuality Experience (CSE), which began as a five-day course facilitated by the wonderful EJ Love. It's truly opened my eyes, my soul and my body to a more profound way of relating between the sexes. We covered so many topics through conversations, practice and whole-body connections.
It's impossible to distil the enormity of five days into a short diary entry, but we dealt with topics including:
- the different ways we deal with trauma - fight, flight, freeze and fawn
- embodying our boundaries and playing games to explore our yes’s and no’s, and feeling comfortable to say no in a sexual and sensual context
- exploring the differences between men and women and helping each other to understand and see one another. We worked on the judgments and resentments we have about the opposite sex and then as a collective we shared all the things we love about each other
- there was a wide-ranging discussion about the negative impacts on porn and how it's often a 'lose-lose' situation for both sexes where men, particularly young men, think women all want rough sex. We have a long way to go in improving sex education
- we spent hours on a sacred sexual experience where the women provided a lingham (penis) massage for men, then the next day the men provided a yoni (vulva) massage for the women. In both circumstances it was so beautiful and all about the gift of giving.
I now intend to incorporate much of what I've learnt into the services I provide for women.
Introducing yoni massage is something I'm most excited about and in the coming months I intend to practice as much as I can. Any volunteers?
Thanks for reading and I'd love any feedback.
GG
