escort diary® of Victoria Knight: The art of the 'menage a trois', polyamory, - curating an amazing threesome.
A musing on threesomes.
People often talk about inviting a third as though the hardest part is finding the third.
It rarely is.
The harder part is the conversation before the invitation.
What does each person actually want from the experience? Is it novelty, attention, spectacle, exploration, reassurance, surrender, confidence, curiosity, permission? What would feel exciting? What would feel unsafe? What happens if one person enjoys it more than expected? What happens if someone changes their mind?
The most best experiences I have had with couples were not the most impulsive.
They were the most considered.
There was warmth. Humour. Desire, certainly. But also language. Boundaries. A sense that the relationship at the centre of the room was being honoured, not tested.
That is what I mean when I say erotic intelligence...
