escort diary® of Paz Bizarre: Touring, the Economy, & My Priorities
Hello deviants & pets!
Singapore has consistently been one of my favourite destinations to tour. The city has always been VERY generous to me, & I have enjoyed connecting with the people who value my time & my craft. Over the years, I’ve built lasting relationships with those who book thoughtfully & respectfully plan ahead. These encounters are what make touring worthwhile, & they create stability, trust, & mutual respect.
That said, the current climate for touring has shifted dramatically. Across the board, I’ve noticed a strong move toward last-minute enquiries. While spontaneity may suit some, for me, touring is not simply about hopping on a plane & waiting to see what happens. It is a business decision involving significant investment of time, energy, & resources. Flights, accommodation, & the logistics of leaving my home life behind all add up. These are costs I must weigh carefully.
As both a professional & a parent, my time away is never casual. Every tour I take involves arranging care for my family, my household, & my pets. Those responsibilities don’t pause while I’m away. This means that for me to travel, the benefits must outweigh the costs, not only financially, but also emotionally. If the balance tips, my priority must be to return home, because family will always come first.
In this current Singapore tour, that’s exactly what happened. While I had wonderful bookings secured in advance, the remainder of enquiries came late in the piece, with little certainty attached. As any seasoned business person knows, running on hypotheticals is not sustainable. I need commitment before I board a flight, not after. That is how I continue to give my best to those who genuinely value my presence.
Therefore, I made the call to cut this tour short. The decision was not taken lightly, but it was the right one. I will always honour those who secure time with me in advance, because that level of organisation allows me to plan & show up fully. Going forward, my tours will be shaped by those who prioritise early bookings, as this is the only way they remain viable.
Leading up to this tour, I had a knowing deep in my intuition that it wasn’t my time to go. That I was being called to cut it short & stay home. So I am trusting that instinct as 'Mummy'. My oldest has needed me more than ever this past week, as we continue navigating the challenges of mainstream education. School can be a minefield when you don’t fit neatly into the box, & my presence as a parent is not optional; it’s essential. On top of this, clients who once would have booked consultations & secured deposits in advance are now trying to leave things until the last minute. Flaky requests & uncertainty do not outweigh the pull of my family’s needs. Parenting responsibilities don’t pause when I travel, & in the past, my clients have deeply appreciated that reality. They respected my time, followed instructions, & secured bookings well in advance, which made the balance of work & family not only possible, but worthwhile.
This is not a farewell to Singapore, far from it. The city remains important to me as I have many connections there & even went to school there for 4 years! I intend to return when the timing makes sense. But I wanted to be clear; my tours are not about chasing last-minute whims. They are about creating experiences that are meaningful, intentional, & sustainable for both myself & those I meet.
In an economy that asks us all to be sharper about where we invest, I am choosing to invest in certainty, in family, & in the clients who demonstrate the same respect for my time that I extend to theirs.
Until next time,
Kindest Paz Bizarre
