escort diary® of Paz Bizarre: I'm Touring Sydney! And I've Made It More Accessible | February 26 to March 1, 2026
February 26 to March 1, 2026
I'm heading back to Sydney for my first tour of the new year, and I've changed something really important: my deposit structure.
For the first time in my long career, I'm offering a $300 partial deposit option, instead of requiring full payment up front. Let me explain why this matters and why I'm doing it now.
Here's what's different. I used to require full payment upfront, so if you wanted to book a session? You paid the full rate, for example; $750, $1,500, sometimes more, for full-day adult babies; that was $7000. For a couple of years, it was my ultimate filter, and it worked! People who paid in full showed up, they were serious and invested, and I had like, 2 cancellations, ever, amazing! However, over time, I noticed that I was turning away people who were serious but simply could not drop that much cash up front. Not because they were not committed, but because the barrier was legitimately high/ taxes/ they were saving for a new home/ whatever it may be. So, I asked myself what I was now filtering. Was it seriousness/ commitment? Or disposable income? As they are not the same things, I changed it to be more accessible.
A deposit is a commitment device, and it changes the unspoken psychological contract and agreement. Once you've put money down, you've crossed a threshold and no longer browsing, now, you're invested. It did not surprise me that usually the clients who balked at the deposit were always the ones who would've flaked anyway. The ones who emailed me paragraphs about how "other Dommes don't do this" or how they "just need to check their schedule first"; those emails stopped coming, while the quality of my bookings went up!
I've been thinking a lot lately about the economics of FemDom. Not the kink itself, but the invisible labour that happens before a session even begins.
When someone emails me with a detailed list of their fantasies, there's a part of them that believes they're doing me a favour. Perhaps they imagine that they're being thorough. They're giving me material to work with, and in some ways, they are. But what some do not realise is that the moment I read that email, I'm already 'working'.
I'm cataloguing their desires, cross-referencing them against my offers, mentally sketching the arc of a session, considering logistics (do I have the right equipment? Do I need prep time? Is this something that requires a longer booking?). I'm also reading between the lines; what are they really asking for? What are they afraid to say outright? Where's the edge they want me to find?
This is skilled labour, and it happens before a single dollar changes hands.
For years, I didn't protect this part of my process. I'd go back and forth with potential clients, answering questions, offering reassurance, and clarifying details. I thought I was being professional. Heck, it was even encouraged in commercial dungeons where I worked in the past. What I was actually doing was giving away my expertise for free to people who had no intention of booking. That's why I now offer paid consultations for clients who need a detailed discussion before committing to a full session. It's a way to have that deeper conversation, about desires, logistics, what's possible, without either of us pretending it's not a transaction and curating a special experience. If you decide to book a session after the consultation, the consultation fee is deducted from your final balance. So if you're serious about booking, the consultation costs you nothing in the end, it just ensures we're both investing time intentionally. You can find more details about consultations on my website*
However, consultations only solve part of the problem. They protect the planning phase, but they do not protect against no-shows and last-minute cancellations. I learned that the hard way when I started touring.
The first time I travelled interstate for sessions in 2008, I had five "confirmed" bookings for the first day. Three of them cancelled within 48 hours of my arrival and one ghosted the morning of. I sat in an unfamiliar city, in a hotel I'd paid for, with a schedule full of holes. The one person who showed up was AWESOME! The session was intense and exactly what I love about this work! Unfortunately, though, one, satisfying session was not 'worth it' from an economic perspective. I'd lost money. Worse, I'd lost time I could've spent with my Melbourne regulars.
That's when I started requiring deposits.
Now, when I announce a tour, I lead with the deposit. $300, non-refundable, held as credit. When someone shows up having already committed financially, they show up differently, they're present and they're accountable. They're ready! Kinda like what Eckhart Tolle says & many others; if you pay for something, you are more invested. Typically why when we get free courses, we tend not to 'follow through'; it's why free courses often go unfinished, while paid ones get completed!
I've learned that the clients worth having are the ones who understand the framework that makes the intensity that I offer possible. They're what allow me to show up fully, without resentment. It's a filter.
Now the deposit is $300. This deposit is non-refundable and held as a credit (conditions apply, and you find them out on my website or in your contract). Some people still choose to pay the full balance, and I am giving that choice now. It's enough to matter and enough that paying it means you've crossed a threshold, but not so much that it prices out someone who's been planning this for months!
The commitment doesn't scale with the dollar amount. The client who pays $300 shows up with the same energy as the one who paid $1,500 upfront. What filters for seriousness isn't the size of the payment; it's the act of paying before everything is perfectly comfortable and you've negotiated every detail. Before you've extracted every reassurance from my inbox. That threshold; the willingness to commit with incomplete information; that's what separates people I work well with. So I discovered $300 does that job just as well as $1,500 did!
Why am I Telling you this?????
I'm not writing this to justify my policies as I don't owe anyone an explanation for how I structure my practice.
I'm writing this because I think there's value in transparency about the economics of this work, especially for other providers who might be struggling with the same questions I was.
Such as 'How do you filter for serious clients without pricing out people who are genuinely committed but don't have unlimited disposable income?' and, 'How do you protect your time and energy without coming across as cold and/or transactional?' or 'How do you build a sustainable practice that respects both your boundaries and your clients' financial realities?'
These are real questions, and I don't claim to have perfect answers! However I do know this:
The deposit model works for me and it filters effectively. It protects my time and ensures the people who book are the ones I've prepared for. By lowering it from "full payment" to "$300 partial," I've made it more accessible without sacrificing the filter's effectiveness. That feels like the right balance, at least for now.
For touring especially, the deposit is essential. I'm travelling to Sydney specifically for this four-day window, and if someone cancels last minute, I can't just fill the slot with a Melbourne regular. I've already paid for flights, accommodation, and blocked out time. The deposit protects that investment, not just financially, but energetically and ensures that the people who book are the people who show up! I hope you show up!
Some people will read this and think I'm being difficult. That I'm putting up unnecessary barriers. That other providers don't require deposits, or they allow cash/ or lower deposits/ so why should I?
That's fine. I'm not interested in making it easy for people who aren't serious. I'm interested in creating space for the people who are.
The people who've been fantasising about filth play for years but haven't found someone they trust enough to explore it with. The ones who want to be diapered and regressed and held accountable in ways their everyday life doesn't allow. The ones who know that pegging isn't just about the physical act; it's about the power exchange, the vulnerability, the ritual of surrender.
Those people don't need convincing. They need a clear path forward.
So I've built one. Pay the partial deposit. Email me. Show up. Easy!
And the ones who are serious? They don't balk at a $300 deposit. Protective of my time, yes, but also of the experience itself. When someone shows up having already committed, they show up differently. They're present, accountable and they're ready. Are you ready?
And if you're still reading, you already know whether that is true for you.
— Paz
