escort diary® of Mistress Jadis: A guide to your first session with a Dominatrix.
Have you ever wondered what happens in an intro session with an experienced Professional Dominatrix?
Are you curious about kink?
I love introducing new submissives, slaves and fetishists to the world of kink and fetish. What could be better than sharing the intensity with someone who is experiencing making their fetish fantasies come true for the very first time?
Being excited, curious and anxious about what to expect from your first session is normal.
So what should you expect? Your short answer: You can expect a BDSM/Kink experience conducted at a mild to medium level that focuses on your known kink interests and respects your limits.
Want all the juicy details? Sorry, you'll find it hard to find a professional Mistress who will provide a blow-by-blow description of what will happen in a real-time session.
Why?
Real play is real. It's not like porn, where the scene is scripted and then edited. Real sessions often follow a planned outline, but it's essential to leave room for improvisation, responsiveness and creativity.
Another reason Professional Dominatrices often won't go into elaborate detail before the session is timewasters. Many of the people who make contact with Dommes are not sincere and are seeking to make pre-session communication its own erotic experience. These interactions tend to make ProDommes wary of questions like "What are you going to do to me?".
Spoiler Alert! Experienced Dommes WILL incorporate your special areas of kink interest into the session. Part of what makes the experience exciting is experiencing exactly how Domme will utilise her skill set and intuition to bring those interests to life. Of course, we want the session to go well and for you to have a good time. It makes the session enjoyable for us, and of course, having you want to return because you had fun makes perfect business sense.
Remember to research the Domme you're interested in's reviews and testimonials if you need more information. This is an excellent way to get a feel for what a session with her will be like.
Remember: BDSM is built on consent. Quality consent is informed consent, and I encourage all new players to research widely so they are well-informed on the kinks they are interested in. This research should include potential risks as well as rewards!
Nerves are very normal before a session. Even the most experienced subs experience nerves, especially when playing with someone new to them.
Booking a session can feel like a big step. It's okay to be nervous; making that an issue for the Domme is not okay. Don't expect a Domme (or any other SW) to coax you in the door. If you're nervous to the point where that is necessary, it's unlikely that you're ready to go through with your first booking.
Ready to go? You've researched the Domme you'd like to see, you've studied her site, you've read her reviews, and it's time to make your fantasy a reality.
How do you make it happen?
I'm sure you can make appointments with your doctor, dentist or lawyer. Congratulations, you already have the skills to make an appointment with a Professional Dominatrix.
The key to success? Remember that you are booking with a professional.
Every Domme has a slightly different process. Most Dommes will outline their contact preferences in their advertising and/or website. Follow her instructions and be prepared to pay a deposit. It's industry standard.
I prefer inquiries via email or text message. Phone calls are available as a paid consultation.
A solid first message will include your name, an outline of your interests and limits, and an indication of how long you would like to play for and when you would like to visit.
Be respectful! Vulgar or thoughtless messages are a massive turnoff and will likely end up in the trash folder.
If things change and you can't attend your session as planned, let the Mistress know as soon as possible so she can re-allocate the timeslot.
On the day of the booking, you will need to confirm at or before the time given to you by the Domme. Remember, if you don't confirm on time, you risk losing your session slot.
The address of the dungeon or studio or instructions for finding the playspace is usually given at the time of confirmation.
How do you prepare for a session? Prepare as if you were going on a date. If anal play is an interest of yours, you will need to clean out before your session. There are many resources online to instruct you on this.
When you arrive, I'll be there to greet you in street clothes. I do this to facilitate a pre-session conversation better. Full fetish tends to make nervous newbies even more anxious!
We will chat about your interests, limits and health. I will give you your safeword and an opportunity to ask any last-minute questions. Don't worry! I'm good at putting people at ease.
Once I'm sure you're ready, I'll ask you to shower and show you where to put your belongings. Then the fun begins!
