escort diary® of Kaliheartholistic: The Space After Goodbye
Some endings linger in the body.
Not because something went wrong. But because something didn’t get to finish moving.
Hey love,
have you noticed how your body holds on even when your mind says it’s over?
There’s a particular quiet after a breakup that no one really prepares you for. Life keeps moving. Work continues. Friends check in.
And yet, something in the body still feels turned toward what used to be.
I see this a lot. Men who are functional, thoughtful, self-aware, and yet carrying a tightness they can’t quite name. A holding in the chest. A restlessness that doesn’t settle.
From the body’s point of view, that’s not weakness. It’s unfinished business.
We tend to think healing happens through understanding. Talking it through. Making sense of it. And that can help, up to a point.
But the body doesn’t speak in explanations. It speaks in sensation.
When emotion isn’t felt, it doesn’t disappear. It waits. It compresses. Over time, it can turn into numbness or tension that no amount of thinking seems to shift.
What often helps is not more effort, but more permission.
Sometimes permission looks like expression. Letting anger move through the arms. Letting grief sound through the throat. Letting fear shake its way out of the legs.
Sometimes it looks like speaking a boundary that was never voiced. Not to change the other person, but to give your nervous system clarity.
Before those conversations, the most important question isn’t what you’ll say. It’s what you’ll do if they can’t meet you there.
When your body knows you have your own back, everything softens.
This is one of the reasons tantric massage can feel so supportive after a breakup. Not because it gives you something new to focus on, but because it helps your body release what it’s been holding.
Slow touch. Warm lotion. No agenda. Just space for the nervous system to come back into itself.
Not to fix.
Just to settle.
Lots of love your way, K xx
PS: If this landed somewhere in you, I’d love to hear what your body has been holding lately.
