diary of male escort Lexx Soule: THE 10 COMMANDMENTS TO BE THE BEST CLIENT (PART 1)
So you want to hire an escort for sex, companionship, to be arm candy, to travel with, to play video games with – that’s an expensive game; or a wide range of other personal reasons. Welcome to the sex industry, and in particular welcome to the escorting side of the industry. Escorts are a great option to hire for several reasons, ranging from a rebound from a shitty ex to losing your virginity within a safe, professional and hopefully educational environment. From just accompanying you for a dinner, to travelling with you afar. From joining a kinky couple to exploring a singles wild side. From joining the lonely old lady to the ever busy business man. Escorts see it all. There is not a lot that could surprise full time escorts.
Something that seems to be an issue is an understanding of what we escorts expect from clients as far as behaviour and standards are concerned. There are sights, pages, and forums that do cover a lot of what I am about to discuss; though with the growing interest of escorts, and the decriminalisation of sex work in Australia this type of information can never be overstated. We (escorts) are a business. We are humans. We have behaviours and expectations to upheld. And so do you the clients. These 10 commandments are guidelines to being the best client you can be, every escort runs their business slightly different, every escort is their own individual person, and what you are about to read are guidelines that most escorts would probably agree with. Bring your best self to the bookings and you give yourself the best chance at receiving the best service that, that escort can offer.
The 10 commandments to being the best client
1. DO NOT ASK FOR DISCOUNTS
While you may think that because in previous blogs I have mentioned that you should enquire about a providers service by asking respectful, thoughtful questions as you would when buying a washing machine, fridge or great bed; that you can ask for discounts the same you would for these products. This is unfortunately not the case.
Because while we do provide a service, and we are a ‘product’ we are also a human. And our services are much different.
Should you be seeing your provider on a regular basis – at least once a month for a minimum of 6 months, then sure you could negotiate a discounted price with your provider. We have a better understanding of who you are, how you will treat us, and the services you desire; you are also demonstrating a higher level of commitment to our business. This is not a guarantor message that you will ever receive a discount from any provider, just some words of advice for those who ask for discounts in life.
Should you be asking for a discount on your first interaction you will irritate your provider which in turn leads to a less pleasant experience for you.
Like I said, you may walk into a homewares & kitchen store and ask for a discount on a fridge, even working escorts have done this. Trying to bargain and learn how to negotiate within life is a great skill, timing is a key element in negotiating. Commit to your provider regularly before asking for a discount, that is the nature of this game.
Do not chuck a tantrum if they say, “No discounts”. That is their business and obviously if you have been paying them for the last few months they must have something you like.
DO NOT ASK FOR DISCOUNTS.
2. DO NOT SEND TIME WASTING MESSAGES
This is an occupation for us; and while we do have empathy and genuine care for you, your life, and your difficulties we do not want to be called in the middle of the day to ‘chat’, we do not want to be updated about your troubled marriage, your annoying kids, the dog that just won’t shut up because it has dementia at the ripe old age of sixteen.
We too have our own difficulties, wives, husbands, friends and family members needing things from us. This is a transaction. This is business.
All this being said, there are some providers – I can’t be the only one; who have platonic conversations with clients and potential clients online from time to time. At the time of writing this I allow people to DM me through social media, and all that I confer with, understand to stay patient with my replies. Sometimes I am free for a ten-minute conversation, other times that same conversation may be prolonged out over a few days. For me, replying to DM’s is no different to the entrepreneurs who respond to emails of fans.
Other examples of time-wasting messages are, “How much do you charge”, shows you have done no due diligence. “Hi hru”. “Do you offer discounts”, explained previously. “Have you got any plans this weekend”, and/ or stringing the conversation on like you are willing to make a booking, with no real intention of making a booking. Genuine questions like, “What exactly is xyz service?”, “I really want to do abc, is this a service you are willing to provide?”, that contribute to the progress of the booking either happening or not, are acceptable.
DO NOT SEND TIME WASTING MESSAGES.
3. PAY YOUR DEPOSIT!
Personally I have never had this problem, but it does seem to be a common issue amongst female providers. The potential male clients will show interest, ask good questions, send reasonable photos of themselves. Though the second the conversation of a deposit is made they ghost the girl. THIS IS TIME WASTING TO A T!
If you are a potentially new male client reading this blog, or any potentially new client at all; understand that some workers will ask you to pay a non-refundable deposit. Each worker has a different rate, and policy around their deposits. Most will let you change dates once if an emergency is to arise, others will make you pay the deposit again. These deposits are to prevent you from wasting our time. When you make a booking with us we schedule that time slot for work, you cancelling is an inconvenience to us and our schedule. Imagine if your boss was to ask you to work, you then decline a friend’s invitation to do something fun because of your work commitment, then the boss rings and says, “Cancel that day, I don’t need you”. You than ring your friend to say you can join them, only to find out that the activity is now full. Maybe you are the boss and own a company, imagine you have a business meeting with another company but then they just pull out for no reason at all, I know for a fact that most of you who own a business would feel annoyed. Things do happen and if the owner of the other company rang and said we have to reschedule the meeting my partner just died; an empathetic, compassionate business person would understand. Do you see what I am saying here.
I also understand that some clients may want to pay the full amount in cash. Explain this to the provider and they can make the adult choice for their business. Again, if they say the deposit must be paid prior to the engagement, do not throw a tantrum, and either pay the deposit or just wish them a good day.
PAY YOUR DEPOSIT.
4. NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER APPROACH A PROVIDER IN GENERAL DAY TO DAY LIFE!
We have private lives, we have family & friends, some providers are closed face, some providers have other occupations, we may be with another client.
Just as you would hate our wives, husbands, and friends approaching you & I when we are together; we do not want you approaching us when we are out and about.
Please do not take it personal, you may be our favourite client, there is just one hundred and one reasons why a provider does not want you to walk up to them in public and start a conversation.
Now look you’re human, I’m human; through the great serendipity of this world we might be standing at a same café at the exact same time, next to each other. Should a provider be appearing alone in line I personally do not see any harm in starting a PLATONIC conversation with a STRANGER. “Oh wow, you’re a handsome young man”, “You have pretty shoes”, “I like your hair, did you get it cut recently?” small little compliments that DO NOT REVEAL anything about us, and allow us providers to remain ‘unseen’. Should we answer with short answers, or seem uninterested in the conversation do not take it personally. We may be with a client you can not see, we may be on our way to a client, we may just not want to engage in conversation.
Should the provider return friendly conversation do not reveal the fact that you & they have a private escort, client relationship. Do not ask if you can make a booking. Do not ask us when we are free next. Keep it simple, talk about your day, the shoes that caught your attention, maybe an event that is on, the coffee shop that you are currently at.
NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER APPROACH A PROVIDER IN GENERAL DAY TO DAY LIFE!
5. Hygiene
Unless you have made prior arrangements to see the provider in dirty, old, sweaty clothes; please present yourself respectfully and hygienically. Clean clothes, clean body, oral care. Really simple basic things that you should be doing before any date. Some providers may still ask you to shower again, and to use the mouthwash they supply, do not argue or complain, it’s part of the process for most providers. If you are intending to have a sexual booking with kissing; brush your teeth a few hours before that experience, not directly before. As I have recently learnt myself, brushing your teeth can cause micro cuts, which can lead to transmission of dieses more easily. Experienced providers will have a good gauge whether you are clean or not and sometimes may begin the booking without asking you to shower. Again, do not argue with the provider or make a fuss over it, just do as they ask.
HYGIENE.
