diary of male escort Lexx Soule: Sacred Sex (Part 3)
Imagine the bag of balloons is your sexual energy. You blow up a balloon and play with it for a day, but than you become board with said balloon because you do not want a red ballon anymore, you want a yellow one; so you pop the red balloon and inflate the yellow one. You then keep repeating this process, and soon enough you have an empty packet and will need to go buy another packet to continue the fun. If you keep ejaculating your energy down the toilet, you’re going to be like a packet of ballons. The empty packet is a symbol for you being completely tired, grumpy, and lazy. How you ask; because if you have been playing with said balloons, chances are you are addicted to those ballons, therefore when it is empty you will mostly cry, whing, and really want more balloons. Whereas if you inflate one ballon, you play with it, and then say enough is enough for today, coming back to the ballon in a few days, you will still have a ballon that you can use. Unless the dog ate it. And because you have patiently emptied your packet (the symbol for energy) you will most likely be more patient with ‘NEEDING’ another packet, and not be so concerned when it is empty. You will most likely be happy because you have just finished playing with ballons for the last six months not six days. Using the balloon analogy above you should be able to clearly see how holding onto your sexual energy through delayed ejaculation and sexual transmutation keeps the energy positively stored within your body, allowing you to be more focused, have more clarity, feel stronger, look sexier, smell sexier and even feel sexier.
When you start to become more in tune with your body and its senses, you can increase the intensity of the delayed ejaculation by getting yourself as close to orgasm as possible, before ceasing everything and trying to prevent yourself from going overboard. It’s heaps of fun! You will learn that you can release seamen and still have the mental state of mind to maintain an erection and maintain the energy to continue on with the sexual session or your day. The feeling for a guy is incredible! If you can get yourself to the point of no return but withhold yourself from going over the edge, you’ll feel like a million bucks. Just be careful not to get excited too quickly, let everything cool down, breathe, take a two-to-five-minute break to have some water, stretch, and breathe if you need; once you are one-hundred percent calm and focused again, rekindle if you so wish. Let me paint you a picture and tell yourself if this sounds like a pleasurable break.
You’ve been making slow, passionate, penetrative love for twenty minutes and one or both of your need a break to prevent orgasming. You have a five minute break of enjoying water, stretching and catching your breath. Would you enjoy just looking into your partners eyes, or admiring their entire naked body, spiritually telling each other that they are the sexiest piece of art you have ever seen? How would that feel to give? how would that feel to receive? Would you even care if you just admired each other for your beautiful bodies, intricate souls, and wonderful minds for another five minutes? This ten-minute break could lead to the next two hours of deep, soulful penetrative sex that melts every part of your beings.
Bringing your attention back to the point of no return edge; with the amount of energy you have just withheld and stored, you may feel like going to the gym for a few hours, or running a marathon, or writing a book. Maybe a little bit of an exaggeration but you will feel pumped if you go to the edge and then refrain from orgasming. This particular practice does require conscious training though. *GENERALISATION INCOMING. Women hate being denied orgasms. My arbitrary belief is that because females are usually more receptable to multiple orgasms compared to males; they hate being taken to an orgasm and denied a come a little more than man. *GENERALISATION FINISHED. If you are a man reading this, deny your woman from coming for an entire hour of sex, tell her she must communicate with you when she is close to coming and then you pull away from her; relax, breath, let the sexual chemistry of the room settle, and then SLOWLY build things back up again. If you denied her three orgasms and then let her have the fourth at the one-hour mark, she would explode! Think one of those XXL ballons at full capacity popping. If you are a women reading this, educate your man on the subject by telling him you read an article about delayed ejaculation for women and that you want to try it, that way he can still lead the experience and feel like the masculine. If you are a couple reading this, do I need to say anything……. If you want to experience an edging experience with me, LEXX SOULE; I am happy to come with you through the experience (pun intended). Just SMS 0411 316 973. Squirting can be included.
I empathise with the fact that there are a range of different medical conditions, and/ or life experiences that make orgasms a game of chess or a game of snap. Meaning, for whatever your specific reason, practicing edging may be more difficult than the way I have worded this practice. There are plenty of sexual health professionals out there that could possibly help you start your journey of sexual transmutation if you fall into this category; two all-round sex educators I always recommend are Caitline Victorious & Esther Perel.
Sexual energy is more than just the fire of the bedroom. Sexual energy is more than having a sex appeal. Sexual energy is our life energy, it is what allows us to go through the day, it is what allows us to have a clear mind. Sexual energy is deeply rooted in all that we do & what we consume. Learning what sexual energy really is, how to control and improve your sexual energy is important to having a healthy life mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and sexually.
What might a tantric/ sacred sex practice look like?
I will not be sharing my two personal accounts, but what I will share are some concepts around what may make a tantric/ sacred sex session fulfilling and fun for you and those you wish to share the experience with. One of the biggest things during the entire love making session is the appreciation and worship of the body. The body is a work of art and so you must ensure that you show your appreciation. Compliment your man’s strong arms, his round shoulders, thick neck, scruffy hair, maybe his booty, his eyebrows, his lips, his scars. Complement your woman’s collar bones, her eyelashes, her eyes, her smile, her breasts, her cellulite, her tummy, the softness of her skin, the roundness of her soft feet. Conferring love to the other person for the vessel of art that they were gifted. We all have imperfections on our body, these insecurities play at our mental view of ourselves, hearing another person find and detail everything that they love about our body is extremely alluring and soulful. While there may be one person leading the session, there is a much more fluent flow to the sex the allows the leader to also be the follower, like a Yin Yang. During tantric/ sacred sex there isn’t any pressure to change positions, you are not thinking about a finish line, the leader does not need to be the dictator, it is just a slow meditative style of sexual intercourse. Tantric sex is a great form of meditation. Obviously with the style of intercourse that sacred/ tantric sex is, there is a huge emphasis on breath work; deep controlled breaths that you try to sync together. Breaths that come from the deepest parts of your diaphragm. Timing your inhale perfectly with your partner and exhaling as one. Just how two women who are regularly together can sync their menstrual cycle, just how two peoples’ steps will sync when walking together; you and your partner will join in a meditative sync that will connect two lovers in ways you never imagined. This is where the leader may have to demonstrate his leadership, counting, “In 1….2….3…. hold….out 1….2….3….” and repeating the process in a calm quite tone until both are breathing together, simultaneously the man glides his penis in & out of her magnificent vagina. When you are with someone that you love deeply, making this type of love, feeling their body pressed against yours, their erogenous zones exciting yours, and your breaths are not a second out of beat; you will feel one of the most incredible emotions and experience a moment of spiritual transcendence like no other. That is love!
