diary of male escort Lexx Soule: Questionable Kinks: The Sadist & The Masochist (Part 1)
Please be aware that the information contained within this blog is of a general nature based on my own personal research and experiences. These are psychological frameworks that can either provide a great deal of pleasure for all participants, and can also be psychological mindsets that bring a great deal of pain and trauma. Please be safe and cautious should you experiment within the physical realm. There are people who will provide you a safe, comfortable environment to explore and there are dangerous people on both sides that can bring a great deal of pain and trauma to your life. Should you need professional guidance, I recommend doing the due diligence required and finding a good sexologist; taking this paper as your reference point if necessary to explain where your interests started. This is an ADULT form of entertainment and fun. Always be safe, sane, and consensual. Should you be an educated, experienced and respectful individual within this field and believe anything within this blog to be misleading or false please reach out and educate me; I love learning and expanding my view.
Both the sadist & the masochist receive a bad reputation by the public and general society today. The sadist is a hidden psychopath or sociopath just trying to find a way to hurt, abuse and harm other people; the masochist is just someone who is addicted to the feeling of pain because that is all they have ever experienced. To the general public and society they both need therapeutic help, medication and Jesus. And look yes, sometimes trauma can lead to, or stem from these tendencies of kink, however you will come to learn that some of the psychological ways of thinking behind these forms of fun have been engraved in human nature since we were bacteria, and that enduring pain can be therapeutic to some people. For those of you still laughing at my remark of Jesus, well there are some Christians who have embraced the kink lifestyle and it has kept their marriage & life in-tact. Just because you have consensual fun inflicting and receiving pain, does not mean you are a devil worshipper. Using his name off face value and the few videos I have watched of him, I would like to reference ‘Texas Dom’, an American who became a Dominant with his Submissive wife to apparently save their marriage. He talks about loving his wife and kids, accepting responsibility, attending church, and being a good strong man. And when kinky sex, war, chaos, painful initiations, leaders and followers have been around since the dawn of time you will see that these ways of thinking have always been a part of human nature. Both the ‘good’ & ‘bad’.
The Sadist
The sadist – A person who gets pleasure, sometimes sexual, by being cruel to or hurting another person. (1)
When you read this you probably think of the most horrible person; maybe a psychopath, sociopath, someone evil, someone who treats everyone like dirt. And while psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists, and down right bad people do fall into the category of a sadist there are a lot of kind, empathetic, good hearted, nurturing people who enjoy inflicting pain on willing masochists who consent to the fun.
As I have matured mentally and spiritually I have learnt two things about human nature. We have a huge capacity to belong, to be apart of a community, to look after someone or something else – maybe a plant, an animal, another human etc; to act in a way that is relatively good. Provide, Protect, Preserve. Though on the opposite side of the coin is the desire to conquer, hold power, be important, and to self-indulge. Let’s say you believe in science and the fact that we have evolved over hundreds of thousands of years and started as a microorganism - a bacteria. We had to fight the other bacteria to continue surviving, then we evolved into a more primitive species of animal where just like chimpanzees we had to fight and kill other animals to survive and conquer. It was and is the animal kingdom, no different to a tiger killing a deer today. We have had violence engraved within our minds long before our great, great, great, great, great grandparents were a spec of sand in their parents mind. Thankfully and said respectfully, the evolution of a conscious society has meant this violent tendency has been removed or mitigated from the normalities of everyday life. We no longer have to hunt for a kangaroo, a deer, or a rabbit. We now have supermarkets and farms that allow us to safely buy this food and consume or provide for our homes. The over consumption, and waste of these foods is something for another blog.
While there is constantly war happening around the world, everyday ‘good’ people – of Australia at least; do not have to fight with a spear, bow & arrow, or gun just to keep their house or suburb from being invaded. The residences of Chermside are not plotting to invade and conquer the residence of Newstead. ‘Woke’ people will see invasions happening all around the world, spiritually, mentally, and physically. Fundamentally being an Australian resident means you have water, food, and a place to live. Yes I am aware that there are people who live in tents at the moment, there are people struggling without warm water to shower or filtered water to drink, and barely enough money to provide for their families. But that is political conversation for another day. Just stay with me please. Since we were a micro-organism, we have had to fight to either defend or conquer, and while I do believe we live in a time now where as an entire planet we should be able to live together without trying to conquer someone else’s land, there are some people that just won’t get the message. Which goes down a whole other rabbit whole, and we are not about to dig a discursive burrow. The point that you need to be aware of about sadism from a scientific and psychological point of view is that we have been violent creatures for a very long time. So the enjoyment that derives itself from seeing someone else in pain or fear is just as inherent as the enjoyment that we receive when we care, love and nurture someone or something we care about.
Now let’s look at a religious point of view.
The Christian New International Version
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John 3:36 (NIV)
"Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life, but whoever rejects the Son will not see life, for God’s wrath remains on them."
Nahum 1:2 (NIV)
"The Lord is a jealous and avenging God; the Lord takes vengeance and is filled with wrath. The Lord takes vengeance on his foes and vents his wrath against his enemies."
Hebrews 10:31 (NIV)
"It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God."
Matthew 10:28 (NIV)
"Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell."
Now this is just from Christian Bible. I know from brief studies, that the Buddhist belief system preaches peace and non-violent actions, though acknowledges that in certain situations wrath must be taken into your own hands. The Quran is also filled with strong actions of violence towards those who are to be punished. From heaven, earth, to hell, violent acts are talked about in all religions. If God created humans in the image of himself, and God has wrath, then humans too would inherently attribute wrath.
“So we can go around destroying everything, killing innocent people who don’t believe in our beliefs, go take over our neighbours to conquer our street?” hahaha NO!
When you understand that both science and religion prove the mere fact that we have the capabilities of violent actions, it is much easier to see how some people find pleasure in CONSENSUAL sadism.
In a consensual scenario a masochist communicates with a sadist and they both talk about boundaries, what they enjoy, what they set as a hard limit. For example, one Sadist might really enjoy flogging the ass cheeks of a masochist with a leather whip, but hates bodily fluid and would never be able to give someone a golden shower or use fake blood to enact a fear based scene. The Sadist may enjoy domineering the submissive masochist by using them as a footstall, ordering them to make them food and drink, or ordering them to suck their penis/ eat their pussy on command. But may never want to fist the willing masochists arsehole. Some masochists will tell you to cleanly put a closed fist across their jaw; you as a sadist may not feel comfortable doing that so you will not do it. There are some things some sadists are willing to do, and things that some sadist are not willing to do. Some sadists just like the psychological control, some like inflicting physical pain. There are different types of sadistic & masochistic pleasure. Experienced sadists who have fun within the consensual realm can be some of the nicest people you ever meet.
