diary of male escort Lexx Soule: Let's Just Copulate (Part 3)
I have not explored as much as I would like within the world of kink & tantra. and truthfully, while there is a lot I want to explore, I am quite demure with wanting to explore those worlds of sex. I’ve said this previously, “Within the world of kink & sex in general, you do not need to try everything to know if you like it”. I am only twenty-six though. And so, if you are for arguments sake over thirty-five and had a dull or non-existent sex life except for the time you created your three spoilt little humans, you’re probably going to want to explore as much sex as sexually possible. The only time you felt genuinely sexy was the one minute that he made you a balloon for nine months; and if you’re a man reading this, the only time you felt like the man your woman actually wanted, was those one, two, or three times she sucked your cock without you asking while you were up late watching NCIS or something, she was horny and you thought fuck it why not. Me only being twenty-six I have plenty of years to explore, and so I am relatively demure within my personal sex life.
Over my time of personally talking with experienced kinksters and people who have practiced sacred sex (however few that may be), there are a lot that say they will never go back, while an awful lot (usually the more sexually mature) express how much they enjoy getting back to vanilla sex. Because when you dive into different types of BDSM & kink, and sacred/ tantric sex you learn about all the elements that make a vanilla session good: Breath work, the importance of stretching, the importance of hydration, the importance of communication, how to lead & how to follow, learning to slow things down and take a break. When you develop the skills to have good vanilla sex, and are frequently having sex, you will learn that you don’t have to think too much, you just have fun with what you are feeling in the moment, there are no huge expectations like with a BDSM scene where you’re expecting to have your entire body sweat, bleed and shake. You’re not expecting to transcend to a place out of this world like with tantric practices. It’s just sex that feels good. You can enjoy the sexiness of your partner, you can enjoy giving & receiving pleasure, and you just get to enjoy plain old normal Blue-Ribbon sex.
The reason I believe some people say that once you go kinky or sacred you will never go back is because you could have one huge sexual session for multiple hours and be sexually satisfied for a week, two weeks, or even a month, compared to say having thirty minutes of sex five times in one week. And just like the porn you may consume, when you increase the intensity, or discover something nuance, it can be difficult to go back to the previous content you consumed; If you started with simple lesbian porn but now consume BDSM orgies where two girls are ten guys whores, you may find it difficult to go back to the videos you started with. So if you progress from vanilla sex into say sacred, deep love making, passionate sex, you could quite easily struggle to find as much pleasure in normal vanilla sex. But I beg the question for all those kinksters & sacred sex people; do you never wake up in the morning next to your partner and just want twenty minutes of cock or pussy? Without it being set as a task like in some BDSM dynamics, would you (the reader) enjoy having your pussy eaten in the morning because your man just wants to lick your lips for a couple of minutes; would you enjoy waking your man up with a warm mouth wrapping itself around his succulent cock; would you as a man enjoy your woman making you a rock and then riding you for five minutes. Neither of you may even come. Should you have read my blog ‘Sacred Sex’ you would know sexual retention is incredible for both men & women. If you shared five minutes of sex and then left each other to get ready for your days, you would have the best built up sexual energy all day. If you were in a monogamous relationship, loyal, and having that type of morning, you would both be thinking about each other all day long while also having this controlled, positive sexual energy storing inside of you. You may even continue your playful regime as you get ready for the day; a couple thrusts in the shower, a blow job while your girl is on the toilet, eating some pussy while she brushes her teeth, you get the deal. Obviously some major circumstances may come into effect during the day that kill your sex drive, but based on my own experiences unless it’s catastrophic or something serious you two will most likely find that sex will continue. And obviously this is where if something serious does present itself you show each other that you care about each other, through communication and emotional intelligence for the situation; if you were going to spend the time having sex you have the time to have an ear or a hug. It can be daunting to explore, experiment, learn about, and experience sacred sex or kinky sex when you read things that say once you experience ‘this’ you won’t want to go back, but I just don’t believe that to be entirely true. Because vanilla sex, is the core ingredient to all sexual practices, and is the foundation of sexual education. When you learn about the world of kink & sacred sex, and learn the values that should be taught within these practices, the skills and techniques to provide fun forms of adult play, your sexual awareness and sexual intelligence increases. Without plain old vanilla sex you would not have kinky & sacred sex. Just how if no one learnt how to make a rhythm using strings or keys, we would not have DJ’s, rappers, and potentially singers.
As you explore the world of sex, become more sexually educated and more sexually intelligent; I believe you will enjoy vanilla sex. It is the foundation of all sexual realms. Without vanilla sex we would not have kinky sex, BDSM sex, or tantric sex. Sometimes within the sex world I think vanilla sex receives a bad, banal, or ‘too old’ reputation; if it isn’t a ten person orgy; if I’m not screaming for my life; if I’m not being at one with mind, body, emotions, and soul than it’s not even fun. Just imagine if every single couple in the world woke up with ten minutes of fun, vanilla sex every morning. Not looking at it like a chore, not saying “your turn to eat me out, I sucked your dick yesterday”, not concerned with the orgasm, but just finding ten minutes to enjoy your partner(s) every morning. In a perfect world that would probably be one of the biggest steps in lowering the divorce rate, improving marriages, and make people a whole lot happier.
While I may be an escort and thoroughly enjoy being an escort, there are far more benefits that come from lower divorce rates; happy and fulfilled relationships & marriages; sexually satisfied people; than a paycheck that supports higher divorce rates, and unsexually satisfied people.
As an escort most of the sex that I have had and that I offer is vanilla sex. While I can bring toys like vibrators, dildos, and whips into the session; while I offer a POV film styled porn experience; I can and am willing to create a BDSM scene; most of the sex I have had is tame sex. Yes I’ve had a couple threesomes, but even they were relatively tame. Even one client that I failed just wanted good normal sex. Most couples that inquired just want vanilla sex but with a third.
Vanilla sex is underrated at times and that is unfortunate. When people say, “It’s just sex” that are referring to vanilla sex. At least I hope anyway. And it is just sex, because whether you like it or not the only reason you are reading these words is because a penis created sperm that went inside of an egg and morphed into your existence. Vanilla sex has been here since the dawn on man kind. It’s just good, fun, sex.
Maybe I’m really just that old of a soul. I like the simple things. I do like extravagant things; fast cars; suits that make people say, “Damn, he’s fucking hot!”; the idea of being jacked; I like hard kinky fucked up sex; I love deep, soulful, passionate, love making. I also enjoy a simple good campfire; I like Suzuki swifts and a simple Sudan that’s comfortable; I love a good book and tea; I like doing sweet fuck all and eating a bag of chips while I watch a movie; and I like good vanilla, blue ribbon sex.
What about you? Do you like just good plain old vanilla sex?
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Thank you for reading,
L. Soule.
Mobile: 0411 316 973
Email: lexxsoule@gmail.com
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