Do Escorts Have Recreational Sex?
As my first official post, the pressure is definitely on to make it a good one! So I thought I would touch on the thing that I get asked the most - Do I have recreational sex?
The short answer is... HELL YES!
The second thing people then ask is, do I still enjoy sex?
Again, that is a big YES. I think that the best way to explain this is by reframing it. I've met many people who have almost as much (if not just as much) sex as I do, who are not escorts. My friend Alexis became an escort after having the realisation that she was having just as much sex as I was just off Tinder. Some couples I've met do it multiple times a day. I, for one, do not work all day, everyday. Rest and burnout is just as much of a thing in my industry as it is in any other industry.
Think of sex to be like pizza. When pizza is good, you want to eat the whole box. When the pizza is shit, it's still kinda good, isn't it? No matter how much pizza you've eaten in your life, you'll still eat it again, and again. Who could ever get sick of pizza? So in the same frame of mind, who could ever get sick of sex?
I think that one of the first misconceptions here is how large the volume actually is. When you charge as much as I do, the volume really isn't that big. It doesn't need to be. In the famous words of Goldilocks, I think what I have is jussst right.
Now the next question, who am I having recreational sex with?
Well, my answer to this is always controversial. First let me begin with the fact that I haven't been escorting for very long. It hasn't even been a full year. Secondly, before escorting my sex drive was never high, which is always a shock to people. Not going to lie, I'm talking I can literally go months without it, and I have. True story. Also, I'm not, and never have been, a fan of dating apps. I don't use them. I like to meet people organically. So I was really never having that much recreational sex to begin with.
In the past year since working, I can count on one hand the amount of guys I've had recreational sex with - five. Which to be completely honest, is pretty on par with the amount of recreational sex I would have in a year before I was escorting, if not maybe more. So who are these people, should you ask? Three of them were old pre-escort fuck buddies. If the sex is good, then why not? I should mention here that not all the sex I have at work is good. So it's nice to be able to have the occasional encounter with that I know will very satisfying. The last two are guys i've been dating or seeing (- yes, I still date as an escort, but i'll save this topic for another post).
I do get a lot of clients who want to see me in an unpaid way, but it usually isn't as stingy as it sounds. Occasionally you get someone who is stingy, who will say things like "oh I just want to give you a good time" - yeah right buddy. My answer to these people is always simple: if I were looking for recreational sex, I'd be on Tinder, not on Scarlet.
Then I get clients who genuinely want to date me, take me out for dinner and start a relationship, or what not. This actually happens a lot more often than you'd think. Your first thought would probably be that these are also stingy men looking for free sex, but I encourage you to think the opposite. People who pay for sex are most of the time genuinely good, kind-hearted people. Both clients and sex workers are normal people, with the ability to have genuine feelings and good intentions. I've gotten involved with a couple of clients during my tenure, but they're stories for another day.
Now the last question that I'm usually asked is, do I have sex differently in my private vs. work life?
The answer is yes, it is different, but not in the ways you might think. I'm pretty vanilla for an escort. The most outrageous stuff I'm into would be some light BDSM, but other than that I'm the rare few who just enjoys plain, simple sex. For me, what makes sex enjoyable is not all the theatrics or fancy gizmos, it's the connection. Call me old fashioned, but I'm serious.
I'm an extremely emotional person. I like to convey these emotions in many ways, writing, exercising, crying, being with friends, but I also enjoy just bonding with someone. It's why the recreational sex i have has always been so small in volume, because for me, I need some spark to make it enjoyable. I don't even mean this in a romantic way. I mean, yeah, it can be romantic, but it can also just be someone who I really enjoy being around and get along with. I've never been someone who is about looks or surface level attraction. To me, it's always connection. This is ultimately how I am able to seperate my professional and private sex lives so well. Work sex is transactional, rec sex is emotional.
Now you're probably going to ask if I've ever had emotional sex with clients. This ties back into the previous point I made about having been emotionally involved with clients. But once again - these are stories for another day!
To summarise... Yes, escorts still have recreational sex, and yes it's still just as good as it always was.
Until next time.
xoxo
KC
https://sexandsydney.com/
