Sacred Sex (Part 4)
Before you engage in sacred sexual acts you may just share space together. Sitting face to face holding hands; maybe you touch each other’s heart while breathing; maybe one sits in the lap of the other face to face and you just embrace each other, supporting each other’s posture, using your energy to protect their energy; maybe you just lay down, cuddle and gently stroke your partners face. You might take a shower together prior to the sharing of space, taking your time to clean each other and as commonly said, “Wash all the negative energy from your lives”. Post intercourse it is best to wait at least ten, fifteen minutes before showering again, you have energy radiating around you, showering straight away washes all the energy away too quickly. Just lay, cuddle and caress each other, talking about the session, more worshiping of each other, compliments, and admiring each other. Some people will go as far as monitoring what they eat and how much they eat during a tantric period, and practice a range of different fasts. Some people may only eat three portions of meat during tantric weeks compared to seven. They will not consume any artificial sugar or fatty fast food, consuming fruits and nuts instead. The aftercare for tantric sex is just as vital as it is within BDSM because it reassures your partner that you meant the words of love that were said. If you have just been complimenting your husband for how much you love his feet, his shaved head, his thick dad bod, his dark brown eyes, and chest hair; reassure him of those things during the cuddle. Rather than just saying, “That was great sex, I love tantric sex” you might say something like, “You have no idea how attractive your chest hair looks with your body when you stand in the kitchen without a shirt on”, “When you look deep into my eyes during sex, you make it extremely hard for me to control my orgasm”, “Please never grow Jesus hair, I love your short, shaved, prison styled hair. You look so bad and sexy!”. Do you see the difference in how that would feel to say and receive.
If you’re a guy admiring your woman, rather than saying, “You’re so sexy baby, and so good at sex” say something like “You have some incredibly sexy legs baby, every time you’re walking away from me they steal my attention from everything”, “You have the most beautiful eyes in the entire world. I could stare into them all day if I didn’t have to pay bills and survive!”, “When you lay on top of me and just grind your perfect pussy along my cock, you give me the biggest rush of goosebumps”. Again, do you see the difference in how that would feel to say and receive. Maybe neither of you need to say anything, you both just admire each other’s bodies and sexual offerings. You’re going deeper than just the physical realm of sexual attraction, you are saying that I love this about you, you are sexy because of this, you make me feel things I have not felt before. Do you see how Tantric/ sacred sex is an equally powerful type of sex to which BDSM is, and how if practiced wrong serious psychological, emotional, and spiritual damage can occur. This sex is the furthest thing from meek. Just because the practice puts an emphasis on love does not make it soft, and when you even look at the surface level of Tantra the religion, there are stories of goddesses beheading other goddesses. Tantric sex is a meditative style of sex. Tantra is love. And love is powerful!
For those who have been following my educational blogs over the last couple months, could you imagine having an experience where you travel from one sexual realm to the other. Extreme BDSM to Tantra; or would you travel from the sacred world to the kinky world. Either way, that is a lot of work, a lot of preparation, and a lot of thinking. But would be one of the most fulfilling sexual experiences a couple could share from my perspective, a once-a-year treat.
Conclusion
The word Tantra is so much more than what most common people know. Tantra is a way of life, it is a belief system, it is a form of spiritual transcendence. Tantra is not an excuse to liberate yourself and have five orgies a week, be promiscuous, and feel connected to everything that has an erogenous zone. Tantra is an ancient Indian religion. This blog has not even discussed things like red, white, black, pink & grey Tantra. Tantra is huge, Tantra is a religious study and a lifestyle. Tantra has NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX; but everything to do with sex. Tantric/ sacred sex is a form of offering, giving, and receiving love. Tantric sex is a slow dance of intimacy that could last days or weeks, focusing on preservation, discipline, oneness, fluidity, and a deep appreciation for ones self and others. Tantric/ sacred sex is a meditational style of sex that allows two spirits to bond, and bodies to be truly appreciated. Tantric sex has no distinguished finish line, and promotes consciousness with the mind, body, soul, and emotions. Tantric sex is not about having eight hours of sensual sex seven days a week because you are addicted to sex, rather learning to control the waves of sex and let the acts of sex happen naturally and fluently. Tantric sex is a dance, a slow intimate dance of the soul, and a worship of these art vessels we call the human body. I encourage you to learn about this magnificent lifestyle and style of sex, because when you consolidate Tantric/ sacred sexual practices with BDSM practices I believe that you can truly start to develop a deeper appreciation for what sex is, what sex represents, and how to enjoy sex on a much deeper level. And in the next blog that I post ‘Let’s Just Copulate’ you will learn that you can bring some of the knowledge from these two polar opposite realms of sex and use them in the simple day to day vanilla sex. The education of Tantra, Tantric/ sacred sex and BDSM sex create a perfect Yin Yang for sexual education.
Hopefully you have learnt something today, maybe you have now become interested in the practice and will continue further studies. If you are a couple reading this, please try this style of sex with an open mind & heart, make it special, make it romantic, it can be a lot of fun. Should you have any questions for me about this blog please just email lexxsoule@gmail.com and I will do my best to point you in the right direction if I can. Like I said though I do not offer tantric services to clients at this stage of my career and it will be many years before I do. That being said if you do want a more SENSUAL service where we take things very slow I am happy to accommodate.
Thank you for reading,
L. Soule.
Mobile: 0411 316 973
Email: lexxsoule@gmail.com
Further education
YouTube
1. Demystifying Tantra: The Secrets of Sacred Sexuality
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cWGfM2xZVfo
2. What is TANTRA? Introduction for Beginners with Mahara
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szMCKtAULA4
3. How to Practice Sexual Alchemy / White Tantra / Karmamudra / Karezza Explained (Awaken Kundalini)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XUzggtYQ9ic
4. Demystifying Tantra: The Secrets of Sacred Sexuality
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cWGfM2xZVfo
5. Misconceptions about tantra yoga, Sadhguru about Technique of extreme discipline
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tOJRNNEtvuU&t=309s
6. The Secrets of SACRED SEXUALITY & How To Practice It! [7 Tantra Tips]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MV9IW7shmz8
7. Vidya Dehejia on the Yoginis: goddesses of Tantra
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LvRso-8oMnU
8. Act as If You Are Not Possessive About Sexuality || alan watts black screen || alan watts no music
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_vUf9jtZKu0
