Let's Just Copulate (Part 1)
This has been written from a heterosexual point of view, but if you’re not a prude and float another direction you’ll get the deal.
Okay you’ve made it. We’ve trecked through the depths of the kinksters and some of their more extreme pleasures. We’ve talked to the love birds about how you could enjoy real, deep, love making and a brief insight into the REAL origin of tantric sex and it’s significance. But what about plain old vanilla sex, the good creamy Blue Ribbon stuff that started this gangster shit. What defines vanilla sex? Is vanilla sex really a thing of the past, left for the over forty’s? Are toys classified as vanilla? How long should a vanilla sex session go for? What if I want chocolate Ice-cream but with the simple pleasures, is that still vanilla?
Good vanilla sex can never be underrated. Good vanilla sex is fun. Good vanilla sex can incorporate practices & things you learn from BDSM & sacred sex, to create the best, creamiest, tub of ice-cream you ever taste.
AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH! Vanilla sex! HOW GOOD IS GOOD VANILLA SEX!
Those twenty minute quickies in the car; that morning sex where side cuddles just somehow end up with a cock sliding into a waterfall; that goodnight kiss that just lingers a second longer than anticipated and has the man now ploughing his meat into her for thirty minutes before bed. Let’s be real, vanilla sex is probably the most practical form of sex to have, to become good at, and enjoy. Vanilla sex is great and I believe due to it’s fundamental basis within the world of sex, it needs to be continually enjoyed even as you journey and explore other avenues of sexual fun. Some of you may be reading the, ‘To become good at’ and think to yourself, “How can you not be good at vanilla sex, it’s the easiest form of sex”, there are learnable skills required to be good or even great at vanilla sex. When you educate yourself on the topic of sex and the subjects around sex you will learn that the skills & techniques to have good vanilla sex are very simple; breath work, how sexually active you are, diet, and mindset. Your relationship to sex will determine how much effort, time and practice needs to go into developing the skills required to have good vanilla sex if this is an area you believe needs improving.
Before we had ‘120 days of Sodom’, and ’50 Shades of Grey’; before the idea of sacred sex was popular, and tantric sex was practiced; we had just plain old vanilla sex - and it doesn’t take Einstein to figure that one out. Just about every animal has their own version of sex to reproduce, and we are in fact our own species of animal. Even as a man of faith, I do believe science a little more when it comes to our evolutionary history and the facts that we have evolved as the superior animal species. So, what was sex in the beginning? I can imagine that in the beginning our male species would pull their willies out and put it inside of the thing we now call a vagina, transcending his genes onto the next stage of life. Side thought; how did the first species of any animals including homosapians know that putting a willy inside of the vagina would create a baby; could you imagine being the very first thing ever to realise that putting a pee pee inside of a hole generates another thing, mind blowing. You would honestly feel like a magician. Imagine being the very first woman to go into labor or give birth, poor woman, probably died. Back to the educational conversation. There was no tying someone from the ceiling and filling every hole; there was no, “Let’s sit and tell each other how beautiful our bodies are while we make slow love in each other’s laps for twenty minutes”; there may have been some level of primal intimacy just like chimpanzees and other animals have, but I would argue that it all began with just plain old vanilla sex on a rock. Obviously over time the way in which we have sex, the way we view sex, the reasons we have sex, and the meaning of sex has changed. Sex used to be for reproduction only; now is a form of leisurely pleasure, deep spiritual bonding, and primal releases. When sex was for reproduction purposes only you did not need to know how to control your breath; you did not necessarily need to know about hydration; you did not need to know what positions gave the woman the most pleasure, or which positions allow the man more control of his ejaculation; you did not need to know other little tricks that make positions like missionary the most incredible position in the world – I could do missionary & the pretzel all day and not get bored. As former industry professional Stirling Cooper has pointed out, the only purpose of sex at the beginning of time was for reproduction. The male needed to put your penis inside of her vagina and ejaculate as fast as possible. Now with sex being the phenomena that it is, even vanilla sex has a certain level of skill to it. So let’s talk about how we can turn Home brand vanilla sex, into a Blue Ribbon tub. Australian ice cream joke.
Prioritising your health goes a long way with any sexual encounter, a long way! So just doing the basics of health will make a vanilla encounter that much creamer. Things like staying hydrated, stretching throughout the day, consuming fruits like; watermelon, mango, blueberries, strawberries, and banana’s; these fruits give you energy and help you taste better as well. Watermelon has been linked to helping men have harder erections, mango has been linked to making you hornier, blue berries are a great antioxidant, and banana’s have long been known as the energy bar of the natural world. Pretty basic stuff right. Do some form of exercise; you do not need to have six pack abs or look like a super model - that would be obnoxious and ignorant; but getting out and moving the body does great things for the chemicals within your brain. I’m not a science geek like some of the people I follow but it has commonly been known that exercising generally makes people have more libido and a higher sex drive. Go for a twenty-minute walk a few times a week, or do some yoga, maybe take up that dance class you have always wanted to do; something that gets the body moving and heart pumping. All of these simple things go a long way in enjoying normal sex. If you have explored or intend to explore the realms of BDSM & Tantric/ sacred sex you will learn very quickly that stretching, breathing, and staying consciously aware of yourself are vital practices for a positive experience. I have mentioned all of this throughout the last couple months in my sexual education blogs.
Before you are hog tied from the ceiling it is usually safe practice to stretch your muscles first, you’re going to need it. Stretching before engaging in sexual intercourse is apart of the stress removal process of tantric/ sacred sex. Apparently we need to breathe to continuously supply our body with oxygen, so learning to control our breathing is probably very important for good sex too. Go outside and enjoy the sun for a little while. All these basic things that promote great health are going to aid you in having great vanilla sex. Vanilla sex is just sex, just as good health is good health.
