Commication confidence and performance.
I am a great beleiver in communicating verbally as it is very easy to get lost in other ways of communicating .
There seems to be a lot of confidence in reading body language , even to the point you allow it to overtake your intuition.
But ther are two things no one Ive ever heard of, can change when icommunicating Firstly the eyes and secondly the breath. I understand many have have studied non verbal communication, then take it as . My journey with it was in the early 80s when stuart Wilde was still walking the earth . i learned then it is not the be all and end all. Take from it what works for you put the rest away.
I diverging from the subject or am I ?
When Im with someone I instinctively know what and how you feel . I look into your eyes and I watch your breath and then listen to the words you speak. Without communicating effectively it can all go a little off centre and be uncomfortable. Women generally expect a bit of romance with sex. A man doesnt always like to take charge. I find a little dirty talk as I gently undress and caress you is a good start or simply say Strip! Its all in the delivery .and how confident you feel. I will share with you what I have found works and my way of communicating with you . Firstly breathing is something we do every day , its automatic. But when you are caught off gaurd or try and change it, the breathe is held only for a miliisecond , but it does the irises of the eyes widen the heart beats a little faster.. These are responses that unthinking part of the brain controls.. Gotcha! no Im not going deeply into all that here . I much prefer to chat with you about how we can get off together . And yes that can be with conversation over dinner or a drink before ever moving into the bedroom. maybe I whisper to you wht I wan to do with you or suggest we try room service. Once upon a time with my dinner engagements i gave you an opportunity to call room service and through each course the conversation and my attire would change . sometime into different lingerie sets ( I always bring 3 ), or firstly removing my jacket , the my dress, then my bra and panties til by dessert i am naked except for my stockings .And did i mention then taking you to the bed and making you my desert. . There are t different levels of communication and confidence required to fullfil our needs . Thats the performance and one we will undertake together to make it the best it can be , for us.
