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Two Steps to Finding the Right Escort

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Boobs: everybody loves them, but they're distracting.

You know what I'm talking about, don't you? If you don't, there's an easy way to show you what I mean. First, open your web browser and go to Second, click the link for your state at the top of the page, and your city from the sub-menu. The result: a webpage filled with thumbnail photos of every escort available in your location. If you scroll down the page, you'll see every type of body imaginable. Beautiful hair, beautiful lingerie, seductive smiles... and boobs.

It's overwhelming. It's like going to the store for a carton of milk and getting stuck in the chocolate aisle: yes, you came looking for something specific, but it's difficult to concentrate on finding it when you're surrounded by so many other tempting options!

This is the conundrum every client must confront when they set out to find their perfect escort match.

I received an email yesterday from a lovely guy in Sydney. He wrote, "I'd like to book time with a lady who fits a certain, assertive personality type but I'm not great at communicating what I mean, and it can be a real challenge interpreting ads." 

It's a valid concern - the success of your escort booking depends on whether your needs are matched to the personality and services of the person you choose to see. But how are you supposed to locate the right person, when confronted with a wall of gorgeous boobs? How can you tell what sort of personality your escort has simply by looking at a photo or reading a quick profile description? 

It's time to put your detective hats on, folks. I'm going to show you two steps that will drastically increase your chances of matching with the right escort. It basically comes down to this: searching by personality rather than image, and then asking directly for that you want when you book.

1. Search for an escort based on personality and services, not looks. 

Real-life romance relies heavily on physical appearance. You might see someone hot when you're out on the town and think 'wow, they're totally my type'. But until you actually strike up a conversation, there's no way to know whether you're suited to each other. In everyday life, looks always come first - discovering someone's personality happens afterwards.

When looking for an escort, I'm going to ask you to turn that process on its head. In an industry where everyone is sexy and potentially available, it makes sense to look for personality first and appearance second. You can do this by using the 'Advanced Search' function on Scarlet Blue.

'Advanced Search' is a great tool. It allows you to select a specific service or keyword, in conjunction with a location, to bring up any escorts who tick those particular boxes. So, for example, the gentleman who emailed might like to search for Sydney escorts, and use the keyword 'confident' to bring up a list of ladies who use that word in their profile descriptions. From there it's a matter of browsing a short list of results and reading each profile - much easier than clicking on the hundreds of profiles that appear on a standard page.

Success in your search will depend on your keywords/services. I'd recommend using one keyword or service only - choose the thing that's most important to you. You may want an escort who is assertive (try searching for 'confident', 'bold' or 'dominate' keywords). You may want someone light-hearted (try searching for 'playful' or 'cheeky'). Or you may want a specific service such as role-play, mutual oral or filming - these and more can be selected in the advanced search menu.

2. Confirm your choice by asking directly.

Let's say you've found someone who seems to have everything you need - their profile description sounds right, they offer the service you want, and they look sexy. When it comes time to make a booking, it's important that you confirm your judgement by letting your escort know exactly what you're looking for. Up to this point we're just guessing, so even if a lady looks right in her ad, you won't know until you ask.

In the case of an assertive lady, I'd say, "Hi, I saw your ad on Scarlet Blue and I'm enquiring about the possibility of making a booking with you for next Saturday night. I'm looking for someone who can take charge in the bedroom, I really like assertive women and I like being directed in what to do a little. Can you confirm that you'd be able to provide this type of experience?"

This sort of specificity makes me happy. I love getting so much detail from a potential client - it means I don't have to guess what they might need. It also means that if we go ahead with the booking, I can spend much more time planning a great experience for them (rather than not finding out what they want until I show up to the appointment.)

If your potential date writes back to say 'no', it's not a disaster. Sometimes it's difficult to predict exactly what sort of service an escort may provide - and it's better to find out now than waste your time. By saying 'no thank you,' the escort is doing you a favour. Rather than taking a job they aren't suited to, they are being honest so that you can quickly move on to the next option.

When it comes to escorts, addressing your needs is crucial. If you want to save time and money, it's worth putting the effort in. Don't get distracted by cleavage - search for your perfect match by personality and services, then ask them directly to confirm. It will save you a lot of hassle - and you might just have an incredible booking.

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