You might think threesomes are something that only happen in porn or in the movies, but more and more folks these days are experimenting with the ménage-a-trois. How can we get a threesome happening? And how do we make sure it goes well? I recently invited escort Alice Grey into my bedroom for an honest chat about having the perfect threesome encounter.

Here’s how it went: We sat down, switched on a microphone, and what ensued was a hilarious conversation about three-ways. The discussion we recorded was published online as part of my podcast series ‘The Art of the Hook-Up.’ But if you’d like a few quick pointers, here are some of the useful things I learned during our conversation….

Talking it over first makes the experience much better. My first threesome was unplanned; the result of a drunken evening hanging out with friends. But Alice was approached by a fellow escort and friend, who took the time to discuss her boundaries and make her feel comfortable. She says this made the whole experience much more enjoyable.

Your first threesome as a couple can be nerve-wracking. We both see a lot of first-time couples, and some of the stories can be quite funny, because it takes people a while to realise that we’re just average, friendly human beings! That said, I’m a firm believer in the benefits of seeing an escort, if you’re a couple opening your relationship for the first time. When things feel risky, it pays to see a professional – someone who is safe and will treat you both with respect.

…and a doubles booking might feel scary too! Being confronted with two well-dressed professional escorts can feel intimidating; fortunately, it’s our job to help you relax. Everyone’s nervous, and it’s perfectly okay…well, as long as you don’t drink an entire bottle of whisky to calm your nerves, because that can definitely make things difficult.

Safer sex might look a little different to what you’re expecting. When there are three people in the bedroom, keeping things safe gets tricky. Basically, you want to make sure no sticky stuff from one person gets near the genitals of anyone else. So, for example, changing condoms between partners is a must. It’s also a good idea to keep an eye on where your hands are going – use your left hand for one partner, and your right hand for the other.  If you touch someone’s pussy and then someone else’s, it’s a safer sex risk.

The internal condom is really useful. If you’re engaging in a male/female/female (MFF) threesome, a couple of femidoms, aka, ‘internal condoms’ can come in handy. They are worn inside the vagina, so that folks don’t need to put a regular condom on their dick. It means you can swap back and forth between partners without having to change your condom every time – less awkward, and less wasteful!

Everything considered, threesomes can be incredible experiences for everyone involved. If you choose the right escorts, talk it over beforehand, and stay on top of your safer sex, you may just find you’re having the time of your life. But don’t take my word for it – I’m sure the gorgeous Alice Grey will be only too happy to show you in person!