I've been blogging for Scarlet Blue for a few years now, and if you've been following along you might have noticed that I love talking about the 'head stuff.' I firmly believe that good sex is usually all about getting your head straight - a bit of a re-frame about sex and some confidence in the bedroom can change everything! This stuff applies whether you're getting it on with an escort, a weeken...
Better sex starts with just one question...but it's not easy to say.Here's a scenario that might sound familiar: after a bottle of champagne and a considerable amount of flirting, you're getting naked with a new playmate. You're doing that thing with your tongue that your last regular escort seemed to enjoy. But when you look up at your lover's face, you suddenly feel uncertain. Are they in ecstas...
Are you a woman who books (or would like to book) escorts? If so, this blog is for you.It’s easy to forget that people of all genders see sex workers. When we read about escorts in the media, or see actors pretending to be sex workers in movies and on television, the client is almost always a bloke. It’s hardly surprising that when we think of clients, we think of men.I do it too. When I write the...
One morning a year or so ago, I was out on my daily long-distance run when I had an idea. ‘Maybe I should write a book about having better sex,’ I thought. You know how it is: activewear, headphones in, trying not to think about anything in particular as I jogged around my local park. I’d had some fun conversations that week with my friends about their terrible Tinder dates. As a sex professi...
People often ask me “What’s the difference between an escort session and a regular hook-up?” or “Is it still casual sex when you’re seeing a sex worker?”I think there’s very little difference. Paying a worker means that you might have access to experiences that wouldn’t normally be available – such as long hand-holding sessions, new sexual positions, or experiencing different body types. But no ma...
There’s a golden rule when it comes to seeing escorts…but it might not be what you expect.It all starts with an innocent question:“Do escorts prefer gifts or cash tips?”“Do escorts like to be reviewed online?”“How can I please my worker in the bedroom?”“How many messages is it ok to send between bookings?”All these questions are straightforward, understandable, and very common. But there’s a probl...
Sticking the long term: it’s harder than you think. Long-term relationships with escorts can be incredibly rewarding, but they’re also fraught with peril.As an escort client coach, the number-one issue I discuss with clients is managing their emotional boundaries. If a guy (or girl) sees an escort for a while, they might start to develop feelings. And there’s nothing wrong with that! Emotions, as...
Do you ever find yourself worrying over every little detail of your escort booking?Seeing sex workers can be expensive and time-consuming, so it’s understandable that you’d be anxious about the details. This might include picking the right shirt to wear, finding the best restaurant, and making sure you’re well-rested for the evening’s festivities. But aside from all the preparation, you might also...
We’re sitting cross-legged on the bed. I’m wearing my lingerie; he’s taken off his shoes and socks, jacket and well-pressed trousers, but he’s still wearing his business shirt. The lights are dimmed, and we’ve drawn the blinds on a rainy Melbourne afternoon. Right now, it feels as though we’re in our own little world.I say, “What would you like me to do for you right now?”He stretches, glanc...
Let me tell you a secret – I wasn’t always good in bed. In fact, before I began work as an escort, my sex life was a total train wreck.I was socially awkward. I didn’t know much about how to please others. And although I had a lot of sex in my twenties, most of it was unremarkable. I bounced from one hook-up to the next, never sure whether I was getting it right. Sometimes things went well… but so...
