Escorts and clients: sometimes we have more in common than we think.Last week I spoke with one of my coaching clients - a lovely gent in search of the right escort. "How do I know if my escort really likes me?" he said. "How can I tell if they're going to treat me fairly and be a good long-term investment?"And just the next day, I chatted with an escort friend at my local cafe. The questions were...
What's the difference between a new escort client, and an experienced player?Clients come in all shapes and sizes. They are young, old, or middle-aged. They are married, single, or just experimenting. They are professionally successful, or work minimum wage. They may be well-dressed, or just look like the next average person. They are be socially confident, nervous, or anywhere in-between.You can'...
When I was in my early twenties, I conducted a lot of sexual experiments. I was genuinely curious and liked meeting new people….as a result, I had several interesting hook-ups and one-night stands.Most of my experiences were great, but often the reaction from my friends the next day weren’t. “You did WHAT?” they would shriek, eyebrows jiggling alarmingly. These were the same friends who had e...
It’s the new year! It seems unbelievable…yet again, we’ve finished off another crazy, surprising, incredible, twelve months.It’s a time when we all consider how far we’ve come. We think about the amazing things we’ve done…and sometimes, about the things we haven’t. Because if the New Year is good for anything, it’s for reminding us that life is finite, and each day that passes is one less day in w...
Remember kindergarten? I don’t know if things went the same way for you as they did for me, but I found it frustrating. Having to sit still for an hour at a desk, having my lunch locked away until playtime, and above all, nap time (need I say more?)I remember those broken crayons that we were supposed to use in drawing class – the ones that were pitted and multicoloured from jamming up against eac...
I’m sitting at a worktable, with my face planted into a microphone diffuser.There’s a camera pointed at me, and I’m trying to hide behind the microphone – as a typical introvert, the idea of being the centre of attention makes me shrivel like a wilted flower. Yet this is what I’ve come to do today – be seen, or more accurately, heard. I’m here to talk about sex, sex work and my book the Art of the...
I love a good adventure. Whether it's getting dressed up in a onesie or going on a three-hour hike, I like to keep an open mind to trying anything new that comes my way. A few weeks ago, I did something unusual, all in the name of adventure: I booked a date with a male escort. That's right - for one night only, I was an escort client.I know some of you might be thinking, "Why see an escort?...
How did you first come up with the idea of seeing an escort?Perhaps it began as the merest whisper in the back of your mind. Perhaps it was a joke your mates cracked once, that made you think. Perhaps it was a dare; perhaps a fantasy. Perhaps it was a late-night movie, that made you wonder, 'does this stuff happen in real life?' And how did things progress from there? Did you spend ages looking th...
Spring!Spring is totally a thing. You know the feeling? You walk outside one day and instead of icy, the air is almost bearable. Trees are starting to look green again instead of brown and withered. There seem to be baby ducks everywhere (don't get me started on the baby goats...I live near a farm.) Although the weather might still be cold and overcast, there's the slightest hint that things may c...
It was a helluva question. It arrived in my inbox, looking perfectly innocent. But this was a situation I'd never been asked about before - and solving this guy's problem was going to take some serious thinking..."Help me out," he wrote. "What do I do if I turn up to a booking and the lady doesn't look like her photos? Am I allowed to walk away?"It's a common fear in this industry, especially amon...