So why do you do this job??? A friend asked me this today and here is my answer.
Everyone in the world is different and so is every courtesan, escort, hooker, prostitute, hoe, call girl, whore, street walker, sex worker, pro….the list goes on. These names come from others and depend on peoples opinions of others who work in my industry. What we call ourselves is also subjective. I don't mind being called an escort, a hooker a hoe but actually don't like prostitute. Go figure.
For many the idea of a sex worker et al is Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. Street walking prostitute doing it tough, living ruled by a pimp, looking for a better life and a better job and along comes Prince Charming and bam…saved. Every little girls dream except the hooker part perhaps.
The industry is portrayed that way, drugs, low self esteem, poor education, no other options, bad relationships, mental health issues etc etc etc. And some of it is true and yet for some of us its not. I am just your average everyday person. I was married, had a family that have now grown, went to university, have two degrees, and have a massive addiction for Travel!! haha got you there.
I love travel. Working 9–5, 48 weeks a year is not my kind of life. Working for 6–8 months and travelling the rest is more my kind of lifestyle. Hopping from city to city when I'm in Australia visiting clients and being able to be flown out to meet someone remotely who is lonely - now that is what I call living. And it takes a risk taker to embrace this kind of lifestyle. I have no real belongings anymore. No car, no furniture etc. All those things have gone by the wayside as my lifestyle choice has become more and more free. And its liberating.
Just this year I have been in South Africa for a month amongst the lions and elephants, then I was in the UK hiking and camping for their beautiful summer. Then three weeks in Amsterdam and Germany and then back in Australia for a few months. Whilst here I have been in Brisbane, Melbourne, Canberra and Perth and then I will be in Thailand for 3 weeks for Christmas, New Year. And then its 2019, a new year and new places to travel.
Yes, I hear what you are saying, the work itself is not for everyone, I know that, but either is being a teacher or a nurse (which I was before this job). Some people hate blood, some people hate being in an office. I'm on the road a lot (my choice, some people only work in their city), some people work really long hours (I don't), I screen and choose my clients, do I see some that aren't so nice - yes cant be helped but will I see them again, No.
What makes it worth while is working my own hours, only working when my body feels good (very important in any human contact work, which I couldn't choose to do in nursing) and being able to come and go as I please. I just chose a job that suits me and my lifestyle choices.
Like Victor Frankl says ….
"Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus, everyone's task is unique as his specific opportunity to implement it"
And…"He who has a why can bear any how"
And my why is seeing the world - being free to go when and where I like without the binds of full time jobs, many belongings… just my camping and hiking things and my few clothes and awesome hiking shoes.