What is Sex to me?
I’d like to share my thoughts about sex. People quite often only refer to intercourse as sex. For me, this is far from the case.
Think about this… How do you feel when you speak about your fantasies? Does the blood run through your body warming your cheeks? When you are intimately touching and in return being touched, when you passionately kiss and are also kissed? Does your mind fill with excitement and your body become aroused by exciting sensations? Yes. How can you not say that these too, are sex?
For me, sex is never about how many times I have orgasmed, what positions were tried or whether there was sexual intercourse. Sex is about having the right mindset and then allowing the physical pleasures to follow. Great sex can only be achieved by being completely open and honest with oneself, being curious and letting go. It’s about exploring these things with a trusted and equally open-minded partner.
When you’re focussed on only achieving orgasms you are putting pressure on yourself and your partner as well. You are missing out on the opportunity to enjoy great sex together. We are human beings, not machines! So please don’t insist on me having to orgasm. I will if it feels right for me and the environment is relaxing and comfortable.
Just let things be and let’s have fun together. That’s what makes for a most enjoyable encounter!
Gina xx
