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Have you ever felt shame or embarrassment around masturbation?

Many of us when we first start masturbating feel that it is something we shouldn't be doing, that it is wrong. I know that when I started masturbating I felt like I was doing something I shouldn't. I was quite young and though I had some idea about what masturbation was I thought I was too young and I didn't know why I was getting these urges to touch myself. I was afraid there was something wrong with me. I felt I had to hide my behavior and even though my mother was a very understanding person I couldn't talk to her about the urges I was feeling.

Western society has a long history of vilifying masturbation that has woven its way into our cultural norms. In most contexts masturbation is just not an acceptable subject of conversation. In fact many of us are even uncomfortable say the word.

Some children are told from an early age that masturbation is a sin. Others are taught nothing about masturbation so when they feel urges to touch themselves they don't know what is happening and they think there is something wrong.

Even if ones parents were sexually liberated we can mistakenly pick up the message that masturbation is somehow shameful. For instance it is not acceptable to touch ones genitalia in public, if a child touches him or her self in public his or her parent will let there child know that it is not acceptable, this message while being for the child's own good, may be not be clear enough about the context that it is meant and may be perceived by the child in a general context- that it is not ok to touch yourself at anytime or it is bad to touch yourself.

So how can we begin to get more comfortable with masturbation?

Think back to your childhood.
What messages did you receive about masturbation?
Was it ok or was it something not to be talked about, to be ashamed of?
Were you told it was naughty or bad to masturbate?
Were you told you would be struck down with some ailment if you masturbated too much?
Were you told masturbation is a sin?
Think about the various beliefs you may have picked up throughout your upbringing, these may have come from your parents/carers, your family, your friends, your teachers, role models, the TV, books or religious organizations.
Once you have identified the messages that you received as a child you can now look at them more rationally as an adult. Talking with someone about these messages and their basis in reality can help.

Realize that masturbation is normal, natural and healthy.

Masturbation helps us explore and come to know our bodies. It helps us to experience pleasure without the need for drugs, alcohol or spending money.

Masturbating is not harmful in fact it is good for us. Orgasm (either experienced after sex with a partner or masturbation with yourself) relieves both physical and psychological stress. Studies show that people who regularly experience sexual climax experience less anxiety, less stress and have fewer heart attacks and strokes. So masturbation can actually make your life happier and longer!

If you struggle with feelings of shame around masturbation or your sex life in general. My Sex Coaching sessions can help. Visit my profile and contact me for more details.

Happy masturbating to all you beautiful human beings out there! Catherine xoxo

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SCARLET BLUE.
INDEPENDENT ESCORTS AUSTRALIA
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